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Just apologize and move on. Someone did something

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in response to reader comment: Turks don't apologize. They kill and terrorise to prove they are not guilty of murder or terror 1

Submitted by Carrie Cramer (United States), Jun 15, 2013 at 02:49

Unfortunately in some cultures it is very difficult to ever admit wrong doing. It is considered weak to apologize and there is no word for compromise in many western countries. Although in the US we were generally good at it, the founders had the foresight to add checks and balances just in case. I don't think Israel is too good at it either by the way. Turkish men in particular feel de-masculinized so in a male dominated society they will tend to find fault with the other party particularly other ethnic groups, foreigners, former spouses us against them type of deal

I think the whole world is following suit. Globalization has made us try to understand each each other but also made us have tronger divisions and hatred. I never saw so much hatred coming from Jews were once persecuted . The abused becoming the abuser rather than relate to the suffering of others is similar to those who feel hatred for new immigrants because "they had to suffer so should they" However many Turks are now saying perhaps the Armenians are right and Americans now realize that the end of WW2 was not the fairy tale of good Americans following only the Geneva convention. War is hell and it's hard to stop killing after seeing so much death and many Turks thought the Armenians betrayed them to the"allies" So are we going to give all the African Americans reparations for what we did to them or the Native Americans or the Irish Americans for forcing them to fight in the Civil War as they got off the bought like slaves? Those people are all gone now. Let's stick with the present. Hatred just makes things worse. I am no scholar however. You can debate the technicalities all you want. Sometimes you have to be reasonable and use common sense and apologize when you have abused people in recent times so perhaps Israel should apologize to the Turks since we are not talking about 3 generations ago.

Let's nip it in the bud Turkey before it festers and move on to the next bit of hatred that will be just around the corner.tomorrow. Everyone loves to get insulted. Americans terrorized in the middle east didn't you see that on TV yourself or in Viet Nam? Every day more horror stories come out but the whole world has committed atrocities So let's just apologize Israel and move on Debating the fine points ..Israel is no angel. Rationalize all you want. Young Turkish students are doing what young people always do keep governments in check because older people are too apathetic and jaded and lazy to care. Not caring will destroy the world. Armenians would not be upset for so long if something horrible did not happen to them either however now I think Turks and Armenians are getting along better the younger ones and I mean people in their 30s and 40s are not as obsessed with revenge. Turks were not used to losing so they may have been scape goats. We will never know. Keeping the hatred alive makes the Turks look guilty.

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