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Wives can't talk about their relationships to other women according to Islam

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Submitted by A very concerned reader, Feb 4, 2021 at 18:22

Right. And they are raised to not talk about this with others. Having being there, I can tell you that there are rules covered in several hadiths which states that women can't talk about their husbands affairs neither of their relationship. It's also in the Qur'an and in many ayahs. Hence no wonder that poster Ajda hasn't a clue about the unhappy marriages among her married friends. If you broke that rule, you already know what a husband can do to avoid you make that mistake again. I only can recall these ones now but I'm sure there are many more. You are supposed to not hide anything from your husband.

"Among the worst type of people in the sight of Allah (subhaanahu wa ta'aalaa) on the Day of Judgment is a man who enjoys his wife's intimate company, and she enjoys his intimate company, then one of them goes and discloses the secret of the other." (Saheeh Muslim, 10/8.)

"Abu Hurayrah narrated that the Prophet (peace be on him, or whatever this means;) as I'm just copying from the Hadiths collection!) said:

Is there any man among you who approaches his wife, closes the door, covers himself with a curtain, and he is concealed with the veil of Allah?

They replied: Yes. He said: Later he sits and says: I did so-and-so; I did so-and-so. The people kept silent. He then turned to the women and said (to them): Is there any woman among you who narrates it? They kept silent. Then a girl fell on one of her knees. She raised her head before the Messenger of Allah (peace be on him) so that he could see her and listen to her.

She said: Messenger of Allah, they (the men) describe the secrets (of intercourse) and they (the women) also describe the secrets (of intercourse) to the people.

He said: Do you know what the similitude is? He said: The likeness of this act is the likeness of a female Satan who meets the male Satan on the roadside; he fulfils his desire with her while the people are looking at him. (Abu Dawoud)".

"Meetings are confidential except three. (Abu Dawoud)."

"And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would hate it (so hate backbiting). And fear Allah. Verily, Allah is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful." [Qur'an 49:12]

"The Prophet (S) of Islam stated: 'The prayers of a woman who teases her husband with her tongue, are not accepted (by Allah) even though she fasts every day, gets up for the acts of worship every night, sets free a few slaves and donates her wealth in the way of Allah. A bad-tongue woman who hurts her husband in this way, is the first person who enters hell'." Bihar al-Anwar, vol 76, p 363

"The Holy Prophet (S) also stated: 'The women of Paradise say to those women who abuse their husbands in this way: 'May Allah kill you. Do not misbehave with your husband. This man (the husband) is not yours, and you do not deserve him. Soon he will leave you and come towards us'." Mahajjat al-Bayda, vol 2, p 72.

And the list of rules to be followed by wives is endless. All of us understand that it's not good to backbite about our spouses, but if they're unhappy, and abuse is involved, they should have anyone to talk about it without being judged or even accused of being bad wives.

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