Magic in Romance is a Myth - Better to Be Separate Than Trapped

Submitted by M Tovey (United States), Nov 21, 2021 at 16:35

This observer was reluctant to begin offering perspective on a topic that is as foreign in region as well as elusive in objectivity, since as one of the male of the species, objectivity might be considered suspect when looking at the evidences of other observers and determining what new insight might be added that has not already been considered and termed suspect.
To that end, nothing this observer would adventure is promoted for seeking self fulfillment in any other relationships, since after being in one for more than 40 years to the same spouse and finding out changes are worse; the lesson learned is find the right one and nurture that for life.
That being said, relationship issues were a hard path to follow when happiness being sought for a lifetime of 'bliss' is as elusive as it is singularly the most problematic endeavor for life. No one knows the secret.
In this world, relationship issues are subjected to societal pressures and familial expectations in one part of the world and in other parts, societal settings are driven by psychological desires in which controls of passions are challenged by self seeking individuals (mostly the male persuasion in many societies) and the females are targeted under them mentality that the womenfolk are abjectly treated as the inferior object of desires and to be dominated (particularly in the Islamic perception of empire settings). It is not peculiar to Islamist societal settings, but for centuries of fighting against the Christian influences, it is most noticeable.
Here then is the cautionary tale; if the wrong attitude is there, avoidance is the best course of action, no matter the internal desires to gamble on finding the perfect mate (such do not exist as forty years of observing such and finding none are perfect, neither male nor female).

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