You're So Right, Lina

Submitted by Robin (United States), Jan 3, 2020 at 20:57

My husband came across as very liberal, even putting me in touch with a female friend he had since high school. She's married to a French man, and was supposedly never in a romantic relationship with my husband. Seeing them together, it was exactly like a brother/sister relationship, just as they had both said it was, each to me separately. Even though she was very positive about him, he made negative comments about her to me. He didn't like that she and I developed our own friendship. She and I both learned that he was not the man he had portrayed himself to be. Their friendship ended about a year before I broke things off with him. She was shocked to discover that he was actually quite nasty. She is now in France with her husband, and we are still friends, but neither one of us has any desire to have anything to do with him.

Some people are good at acting a certain way, sometimes for years, in order to get what they want from others. My husband is one of them. I'm just glad I figured him out before I brought him to the U.S. I learned that he was actually very domineering and impatient with his mother and sister (his father had died more than ten years prior, and he was the head of the household). Any respect he seemed to have for women when I met him was an act. These guys know very well what a Western woman wants in a relationship - in my case because we talked about it before we married. Almost as soon as the marriage certificate was signed, the man I thought he was disappeared. I feel bad for his mother and sister, because they can't get away from him like I did, but there's nothing I can do about it. I had to cut off contact with his sister to save myself. What a sad situation this all turned out to be.

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