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Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Nov 15, 2019 at 17:30

By all means return to Egypt... it's a beautiful country. Just don't get involved with the local men as, by and large they are full of s***.

Your first mistake was giving him money - Egyptian men like to provide, IF they are serious about a woman. Look, these men break their backs trying to save up for their wives' flats and their gold. The general consensus is the wife is home all day taking care of the kids and eating cakes... all funded by the husband and/or yours truly.

99% of them want kids, and even if they don't their social network would start to think there must be something wrong with him. His family will financially bleed him dry, and will encourage him to do the same to you. He will eventually be persuaded read forced to marry a local girl/cousin. If he doesn't then the catch is the orfi bride will be expected to either convert to Islam, bear children and/or financially benefit their son is some way. Love is never enough, in fact the word unconditional simply doesn't exist in their vocabulary.

Family comes first and they never cut the apron strings. You will be expected to fit in and Egyptians are very critical (especially the women). Every part of your character and physical appearance will be dissected. Your cooking will never be the same as their mothers'. You will be expected to submit to his own and his families' whims - forget who you were before. If you liked wearing makeup and habibi is not so keen, then his word goes. Their society doesn't allow them to be open minded, because their communities like to gossip and harass. Dishonour your man by smiling too much at a shop clerk and who knows what fate awaits you. Oh, and when you're officially married they officially own you, and marital rape is permitted.

So this is life as the wife of an Egyptian in a nutshell. Not for the faint hearted! Perhaps you're thinking you dodged a bullet.

The typical Egyptian man is stubborn and aggressive in pursuit of his goals. Like you said if they want something they get it. And they are patient. They will happily accept money from a tourist woman, but will be too ashamed to let you pay in public. Public image is everything to them. The sleeping all day is something I know all about, and I'd say that it's mainly common behaviour amongst the low class Egyptians/villagers. This is their life - hustle, sleep, coffee shop. And repeat. On the flip side many Egyptian men can be a lot of fun and actually like to go out and do stuff/have hobbies/not all about "flous". But they're usually not the ones organising trips at the beach or calling out "taxi" when you're three storeys up on a balcony.

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