Keira, You're Going to Laugh

Submitted by Robin (United States), Sep 4, 2019 at 14:15

Okay, so this part: "Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity."(Quran 24:26). What a load of crap. My husband freely admitted to having lots of sex at the age of 18 with whores (around the same time his father died, supposedly). He was certainly no virgin, so certainly not pure. He sure didn't seem very experienced, however, and caused me a lot of damage the first time we were intimate. This should have been my first clue as to the kind of man he was, because he was more proud of himself than sorry for me when I showed him all the blood on the sheets. Because of that damage, every time after that the week I was there was extremely painful at first, but did that even slow him down, make him be more gentle? OH NO. Were we married at this time? OH NO. So are you telling me that in reality, it is only the woman who is supposed to be the virgin? I was far more of a "virgin" than he was, if you want to go by the length of time I went without a man versus the time he went without a woman. To be perfectly frank, I'm pretty sure that he never went without a woman - he just made sure no one else knew about it. Or that he drank alcohol. He didn't appear to know what the marriage procedure was, which was why he got his married female friend involved, so I don't think he had any other wives before me.

Do you think it too much to expect that he will handle the divorce in Morocco, being as how they are against divorce? I know if there is any cost involved, he certainly won't do it, but I wonder if this will cause him any problems in the future if he attempts to marry someone else. I certainly don't like having any ties to him, but if it's not going to cause me any problem in the U.S., why should I concern myself with it? This makes me wonder if he is not really "done" with me, but that doesn't matter because I am done with him.

Thank you for explaining things to me. His mother seemed to like me, as well as his sister and cousins. I don't know how involved they were in his little scheme, but his sister did encourage me to end the marriage and never return to him. What does this tell you? And she divorced her husband during the time I was involved with her brother. I don't have any contact with any of them anymore, so I will probably never get answers.

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