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Submitted by Robin (United States), Jul 12, 2019 at 09:15

"Well if the idiot does try to marry, he needs to provide divorce papers with an apostile stampt if it's outside an Islamic country. If he claims to never be married, he'll needs those papers also with the apostile stamp."

You're right now that I think about it, because I had to provide proof of my divorce in the U.S. (and have it and the translation stamped) before we could marry in Morocco. I can't remember if he had to provide any papers claiming he had never been married, but it makes sense that he would. With almost everything being discussed in Arabic during the entire process (and boy, was it a process - if I'd known it would be that much of an ordeal, I would have waited to marry him in the U.S.), I didn't understand a lot of what was going on.

"I'm pretty sure if he were to try to add a 2nd wife in Morocco, you're supposed to be financially secure and have first wife's permission."

Yes, that is my understanding as well. Not being financially secure was the reason he had never been married in the first place, and I researched for myself later whether he could have another wife without me knowing about it.

"Does your marriage contract have a provision stating he can't take an additional wife?"

I have looked at the translation, and don't remember seeing that provision. I didn't even know what the contract said when we married (I know, but hindsight is 20-20) because it was in Arabic. He wasn't able to get it translated until after I had returned to the U.S., and I didn't get the translation until my next visit.

"And if you get the chance, apply for divorce in Morocco, maybe you'll be awarded a settlement that he owes you..."

This is good to know, because he is definitely owes me. Of course, knowing how he treats his other financial obligations, I can forget about ever seeing a dime of it. He most likely will not return to Morocco if he can help it, because he owes too many people money there (and has probably scammed many more). Yes, I married quite the winner. If he hadn't acquainted me with the female friend who was as oblivious to his true character as I was (and who helped us get married, because she had gone through all the steps with her husband), I would never have blindly gone along with it. I know this female friend didn't really know his true character, because of what he did and said to her and about her later. She is no longer his friend (she cut him off, which really made him angry, causing him to say even more nasty things about her), but she and I are still friends after everything. I see her as being as much a victim as I am. She's very happy I finally ended things with him, and has no contact with him or anyone associated with him. Her being in France, and him being in South Korea, makes this pretty easy to do. ;)

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