Advice to anyone going through heartache

Submitted by Freebird (United Kingdom), Feb 25, 2019 at 05:38

Hello everyone, I come on now and again to read what's going on with you all. I just want to give a little bit of advice , I've been through hell and back twice I may add....so here's how I recovered...STAY BUSY ...always have something to do...to take your mind off the crap your going through.. if you make yourself go out ..be sociable..see family more see friends more ..take yourself out for the day or go on holiday...start a new class of something that's of interest to you..a new hobby maybe ?..anything to stop you sitting feeling sorry for yourself and wallowing..this I know is hard as anyone knows who is going through heartache ..but if you don't throw yourself into activities or social outings etc...you will suffer much longer believe me...you will recover better if you stop allowing your mind to go back to HIM ! ..I also made sure if he popped Into my mind..I felt ANGER..angry at what he did to me and how much time of my life he wasted..anger at his lies and false promises...so when you do think of him...be angry! ..also it's important to delete all pix yes I know this a hard one..your basically trying to delete all memories of your relationship...but I did it...because I couldn't get closure or get away from those images if they ARE RIGHT THERE IN FRONT OF YOU...DELETE...if you can't see...they won't hurt...I threw myself into social outings..I have met NEW friends ..I have picked up with old friends..I'm going 2 holidays so far this year and if I can afford and squeeze in another I bloody will ! ....why not ? I deserve it...also....I have met someone else...yes so you see ladies...life goes on and you WILL GET OVER THE RAT ...why fret.. cry..miss..pine...for someone like that !!!! We all deserve a man who treats us the way we want to be treated..with respect love kindness care and loyalty...why settle for less ??? Think about that...so please take my advice...I'm proof of that working for me..I've moved on..got over him...I have CLOSURE...and I have a new man in my life ....good luck to you all...God bless

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