Iraqi man in United States

Submitted by Alena (United States), Nov 4, 2018 at 23:35

Hello to all. I do need help I need some advice or at least someone who does not judge me or listen to me. I met an Iraqi man four years ago. He arrived to the USA as a refugee. We met in person one night I was out with some girlfriends and he was with some other Iraqi guys. When I met him he barely spoke English but we could communicate so we became first friends then shortly after we became: girlfriend/boyfriend". I am an independent woman, I support myself have my own place, car, good job etc. I helped him in some many ways during his first years here, not only him but another Iraqi family who came to the US at the same time. We had a good time together I really thought he is my soulmate.

One day an Iraqi woman who he introduced me spoke to me about him being married in Iraq. I did not believe at first. I asked him he denied saying she is jealous of me. Later on she showed me a picture of him with a baby saying is his son and is in Iraq. He said to me she is laying that baby is his nephew... I believed him. After a month an unknown woman contacts me trough fbk saying is his wife and is waiting for him in Iraq. I didnt say anything to him this time but I asked if she came give me her number so I can add her on Viber so I did.

One night he was at my place and I notice his phone ringing at 5 am. I woke up so I took his phone I saw was a number from Iraq. I checked the number she gave me it was the same so I decided to call her back from my phone. So I did. He was asleep. when she answered I said do you need to speak with Ali? She furious says who are you where is my husband, I said your husband? He is here sleeping. So I woke him up and gave then phone to him, he answered Alo..she got crazy yelling and crying and cursing the whole world. He could not believe what I did. I grabbed the phone I pressed the speaker and asked him why you are saying you are single? why you denied your wife and your son? why you dont comment your life in iraq? she cries and cursing me.

Since then everything has been bad. She asked for divorced and move away from Iraq with her family and the kid. We really never broke up. I am so mad at him and myself because what I did. I have a lot of pictures of us and I sent it to her all of them saying look this is your so-called husband. She took all that as an evidence of adultery..this is a mess.

I never left him. Now he has a stable job, he lives in a decent place, has a good roomie (iraqi guy), his own car, etc etc. His love disappeared for me. He became distant very distant, his weekends are for his friends no more for me, his visits are short, not movies, dinners anything. I am so so hurt. The love ends as soon the benefits are cut. That woman sometimes stills contacts me saying why I took her husband he left her for.. this is ridiculous I cant move on. I am so hurt but can not stop seeing him.

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