Just want to share this post with everyone.

Submitted by jessica (canada) (United States), Oct 20, 2018 at 10:10

Just want to share this post from a woman that's been married to an Moroccan man for 39 years. and this is what Mohamed have been saying to me all the time..He told there a lot of bad moroccan but there are good one out there.

I have been married to a Moroccan for 39 years so feel well qualified to answer your question. I noticed one of the answers said that all men are the same and I have to disagree quite strongly with that. Most of us are conditioned by our cultures and cultural differences can make for difficulties. First of all, a lot will depend on how serious this relationship is, or is likely to become. If it's just casual then there's no problem . Moroccan men can be great fun , often well educated and intelligent. It also depends on which part of Morocco they are from and whether they come from a poor, uneducated family or a reasonably well off or rich family who consequently is likely to have been well educated. Most Moroccans are Muslims and most ( even non practising Muslims) are very into their religion. If you end up in a serious relationship they and their family are likely to want you to become a Muslim too . Having said that, their religion states that they should not try to force anyone to change religion but many of them, once married , will have a hard time if you refuse. My tactic in that regard, has always been to remain non committal when asked about my religion. In that way, they are not offended nor do I offend them. The majority of Moroccan families are very welcoming to foreigners, though not so happy when they think their son might marry one. In my case, my husband's family were very apprehensive at first but I can honestly say that they grew to love me and I them and we all think the world of one another. If you ever plan to visit Morocco with this man, my advice would be to go with the flow , observe local customs ( your fella should be able to advise you on those). Don't be like I was and refuse to comply with some of their customs because I thought they were silly. Wear your normal ( European) clothes . You'll probably find that the majority of young women are wearing the same clothes as you in any case. The majority of older women may still wear traditional Kaftans and if you decide to wear one too ( but only if you want to) , they will be highly delighted. Don't be overly demonstrative in public , but behave however you would normally, when alone with your man. I f you do end up thinking about getting hitched, think carefully before you do. I don't regret marrying my husband for one minute but I have to confess that finding a happy medium hasn't always been easy. Most Moroccan men would expect their children to be brought up as Muslims. That includes circumcision for males. Forget the stereotypes you hear about on the Muslim bashing news . Each man is unique and some will be more accomodating than others. You'd have to play that one by ear. My husband wasn't bothered as bout me celebrating Christmas for example and would even join in , in the early years ,although nowadays he's not really bothered. I, in turn try to make a bit of effort when it's one of his religious celebrations. I have joined him in observing the Ramadan fast ( voluntarily) and have to say that I actually enjoyed it, although it was hard at first. I won't be doing it this year for medical reasons but will still make sure I don't eat in front of him when he is fasting as it doesn't seem fair. If you are both willing to compromise and meet each other half way, this will work but if either you or he are not willing then it could be an unmitigated disaster. I totally agree with one of the replies which said that older Moroccan men tend to want to return to Morocco. This has been my experience too but as compromise we have agreed to move to Europe i.e neutral ground, close to Morocco and not too far from the UK . In this way we will hopefully get the best of both worlds. Good luck!

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