Very dangerous. Psychologically our minds fill in the blanks.

Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Jul 25, 2018 at 22:42

Hey Jackie. I am very concerned about you going and spending that much money. It is very dangerous. I hid and went and no one knew or so I thought but my friends brother works for Homeland Security so they had me on the radar. However one night they took me to the other side of town and his sister tried to sling me into traffic because I had dishonored the family by being alone with him.

I see you are very concerned and that is your inner voice telling you no and to stop,

I have studied their culture for several years since returning. Knowing what I know now I would have never taken the chance. I was safe ONLY because I was a conduit to the USA. Women are second class citizens.

I also studied the psychological aspect of online relationships. Words are beautiful and it seems all so surreal but actually the dopamine rush from hearing all those promises gives us a high....what we don't know is that our minds fill in the blanks and creates an illusion of bliss. Also as humans, we are curious by nature. I am very concerned. Mena men know how to play this game. It is called bezness. Please look around a little more before you make your move.

Don't ever be embarrassed to ask someone about these things. It could happen to anyone. Young old rich and poor. Study the effects of Lovebombing. Mena men are narcissistic for the most part. Robert Spencer on Youtube will pull you into reality about the culture. Also look at youtube honor killings. That will make you a little wiser. Human trafficking is another thing to think about. Even organ harvesting for money.

I hate to even talk of these things but they do happen. This is where the facts over feelings have to come in.

Even if you were to marry him. It takes a lot of time to get him approved for the US. Immigration attorneys are expensive and so are the forms and it could take years for it to be finalized. It is so stressful. Then sometimes they fail at the interview. You will have to turn in 3 years of your tax returns to show you can support him. Even after 2 years of waiting on USCIS...probably longer now...you will still have to come up with another grand to get him permanent residency. Too much of a risk. Really. I think you already know this.

You already know this is too much of a risk. Take the money and treat yourself. Let him go and save yourself. Girl I am telling you the truth. Don't do it. It will take years off your life or possibly your life. Just go NO CONTACT and don't let him guilt you.

Keep us posted and please think. Regards. Chelsea

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