thank you Lana...we are healed and awake!!

Submitted by Chelsea, Mar 12, 2018 at 20:32

It is so thoughtful of you to wish me well. I wish you the same.

I do believe that we are in the same place with our healing. Life has become easier, stress from do-hicky over yonder gone....LOL. I don't even say his name. Like you said about yours...he is non existent to me now. I go through my days without a thought of him. Ain't it just funny how they get you into this fake illusion of a fairy tale life of love and when you finally smell the coffee....you feel nothing. I mean nothing.

It is good that you don't respond to your MENA maniac. It drives them crazy because you know they think they are "all that" when n realty....they are cowards. April will be the 6 month mark for me to watch out for contact since he has contacted me every 6 months....I am hoping he found another (feel sorry for her) but that is how much I care.

I think like you. If a person loves you for who you are and THEN try to change you.....what happened to the person you were that attracted them in the first place? I have believed that for all my life.

So glad to hear that you are doing well and enjoying life. Also glad to hear that you cut that NPD maniac off. There really is healing in NO CONTACT. I have no desire to even look at one of his facebook pages. And oh I was so in love, jealous, possessive. I have certainly learned more than a lesson. I learned that life is too valuable to let someone waste your time with lies....I learned that eggshells crack easily when stepped on and I prefer to walk as I please. I found my value in his devaluing me as a person. I found myself again and I am loving me, not selfishly, but taking care of myself.

Like you...I too still read the comments but I don't post much unless I feel there is one on here that I may be able to help. Helping each other gives purpose to the pain we suffered.

But that is all over now. Every now and then I have a thought of it, however I can clearly see the situation almost as if I was a different person looking at the old me.

I have changed so much. I am not the same person I was. I like me better now for I stand up for myself and will not take any you know what from anyone. I don't feel like I have to impress anyone. They can love me or not. I am free. You are free. WE ARE FREE. I am so happy for us both!!

Much love to you and all

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