To woman deceieved I have a similar story

Submitted by Jess (United States), Mar 10, 2018 at 21:03

Its crazy how similar these men can really be. You said your ex was egyptian and mine was arab from iraq and they literually sound like the SAME person im not even kidding. The way he looked and the way he was. There had been occassions where I felt like he would have raped me which scared me but I as well tried to convinve myself that it WAS stress making him act the way he was but know thats when they had us brainwashed into believing that. I'd ask "Whats wrong?" He'd say "Nothing baby everything is fine" but i felt it wasnt so i believed we were good then he'd break up with me the next day. When you said, "You see he mirrored my emotions, they will become like you to fool you and become just like you. They will be your best friend, they will like what you like, they are affectionate, tender, romantic, very attentive to your needs, amazing in bed, and caring. Until they hook you." That couldnt be said any better. I agree with that, my ex arab guy would do the exact same thing. He really had to study me and see what made me happy , how i acted and my reactions to things. He even at one point started talking with an american accent just like mines. and acting like the guy version of me which was weird because when i met him he was completely oppisite. And yes he Did just all of that and It had me convinced He was my BEST FRIEND. boy was I wrong. He would cheat on me and would use dating websites. My single friends would tell me frequently that they would notice him on those sites. I'd confront him, he would LIE and that same day treat me to a romatic dinner and day trip. He would lie about EVERYTHING!! He would come home, telling me how much he loved me and how i was the best thing that ever happened to him. When i would confront him about these things he'd say "Youre friends dont know me theyre weird. F*** THOSE B****** THEY ARE JELOUS!!" The thing is he WANTED SO BADLY for me to stay with him and accept his cheating, lying AND manupulatvive ways. Of course he brainwashed me into believing that I was the crazy one. HE was an expert at that. When I would ask questions, snoop on his things, call him about his wherabouts he'd flip out and break up with me everytime, with a new excuse everytime. I wasnt attractive to him anymore. Even though Im a 21 year old with a model body or because I didnt want to give him space. We broke up more than I can count on my fingers. He'd come crying back to me or he'd make fake accounts to talk to me or he'd even reach out to my friends to tell them I was disobediant thats why were not together than he'd come asking for another chance telling me how he coudnt live without me. I was lured back in thinking this time maybe he changed. I stayed because I believed it was just his way of loving but one day I had enough of his emotional abuse and his mental manipulation so I broke up with him and told him to never call or talk to me EVER again. I WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOU FOR WHAT YOU PUT ME THROUGH i told him. And I knew once I told him that he wouldnt contact me again. He got the picture. I was basically telling him that i will no longer put up with his behavior and be a victim to his deception and continue living a lie. I decided that because at that point I felt I had no self-worth and felt suicidal. No matter what you do for these men, you feel you will never be enough. Its better to find someone that will value you instead. Thankyou for sharing your story and sorry you had to go through that. I hope you will heal from such a cruel person.

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