Thank you Chelsea

Submitted by A Woman Deceived (United States), Feb 13, 2018 at 17:45

Thank you Chelsea for your kind words. He left us 8 months ago. We have a daughter together also who was reeling in pain from the abrupt separation. I immmediately put her in therapy because I realized that she was internalizing her feelings. Through therapy I have found out that she does not want him back in the house, nor do I, even if he makes an attempt and tries to resurface. She has told me that the house is so peaceful now, and it is. What shook me is when she told me after he left that he is a narcissist and doesn't care about anyone but himself. She is only twelve. I asked her how she knew and she said we studied it in school and plus he doesn't know me and doesn't care. It broke my heart to hear this because the relationship that she has always longed for with him will never exist. She too realizes this and is coming to grips with it. I have been No Contact since the separation, but he still contacts her like once a month via text to say hi how are you? He won't come and take her out, go to any activities she's in, or does he care. He doesn't even know what activities she's in. He just pays child support that's it. When he tries to contact me and I do t answer he will call her and try to get me on the phone to answer a stupid question. I don't take the call nor do I answer. I feel like she is being put in the middle but have no recourse. I know that narcissist believe their children are an extension of them so now he is trying to manipulate her. I pray that her child therapist will help her in handling this because I don't know what to do. He is just plain evil incarnate. Yet I find myself continuously worrying about the other woman and why she is being treated so special. I know it won't last but because of my trama bonding,this is where I am. I have to break this soul tie so that I can continue to heal. Continue to pray for me as I will do the same for you as well as others who have fallen under the charms of the narcissistic jezebel spirit.

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