excellent post Lana....hello all

Submitted by Chelsea, Nov 3, 2017 at 22:25

Hoping everyone is doing better in their healing from this emotional trauma. Lana you are so correct. No one can really know unless they experience it and nobody could have stopped me a few years ago from going and then falling into a brain washed belief....which was really a trap.

I have not posted for awhile. But I do read. And thank you all for still sharing your stories ...for they still help me.

Honestly I have gone through emotional brainwashing and can see it more clearly now. But I am not the same as I was before. It has shattered my trust for anything. His words were so perfect for the vulnerable state I was in at that time. All of this is really unbelievable really. It effected my mental health......that is another reason I have not posted because I don't talk about it anymore. And it seems to help not to.....but I will tell you a few things that are happening.

He has not left me alone. I blocked him from everything. It has been over 3 years and he chimes in with a new facebook account every 4 to 6 months. He always has some kind of scheme to get me to skype.....and every time he opens a new facebook acct ....he sends a message request. He always puts some pictures of him up as well. I guess he thinks he is so good looking that I will give in and melt. It seems he is psychotic. And when he messages....it is like all is well and we are still what you call in love. Nothing from my end can be further from the truth. I don't feel anything for him. I don't wish him bad but I don't wish him anything.....I simply do not care. It is a good place to be.

I did answer one message and he pleaded for me to go to skype. I told him all I wanted was to be left alone. He still has not honored my wishes with that.

After I told him to leave me alone....and then blocked him again....he has opened many more accounts to get to my messenger through facebook. I just block. The feeling is gone.

Last week he pulled another one.....He sent me a money order for $50.....he sent the number through the message for me to pick up the funds. He also had all the receipts from where I paid the attorney and made pics of them to send in the message. He said he wanted to pay me 50 dollars a month until he paid me back for what I paid the attorney.....ONLY THING IS....he wanted me to open up my skype account which I do not have anymore and he would send the Western Union numbers through that.

I did not answer that one. I blocked him again and I did not pick up the funds. I don't want anything from him except for him to go away. He is trying to buy me back. I do not care about the money I spent. But I care about my peace of mind. Also he does not know where I live and he can track where I received the funds.

Other than that....I have healed pretty well but it has taken a long time because I really did love him and was so brain washed and blinded by his charm that I could not see the truth.

Yes....all these stories are so similiar. I see women in different stages of their games that they play on us. I too hate to see women or men scammed and have their hearts betrayed.

Healing comes but it has been slow for me. I was in cognitive dissonance for a long time. But I do get better day by day....month by month UNTIL I get a message request from him. Then it throws me off for a day or two.

I have a thyroid condition and it has been acting up again and I am also a cardiac patient so I have to be careful not to get too stressed.

I saw you were thinking of me and others in your post. I appreciate that. It is nice to see that care.

My life is simple.....I have to keep it that way now. I am working on focus and concentration.

All that constant messaging for over years from him demanding a response has broken my concentration skills. But I am getting that back slowly.

Love to all and take care.......Chelsea

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