Don't put all of your trust into someone you have not met

Submitted by Cheryl, Sep 3, 2017 at 07:16

Leslie I can tell you it's rare and not thought highly of a man his age to have never been married. You mentioned your brother has not been and is 54. We live in a very different culture. In their culture the men do not marry women older than them. They marry a young woman (virgin) who can give them children. You have not met him yet and if you do you should not believe everything he tells you. None of us want to believe someone could be cruel enough to use us. You need to be careful and have your guard up to expect to find out he's possibly married and he's only talking to you to get help to get a visa to the US.

The man I was seeing, we talked and saw each other on cam on a daily basis told me he was not a player. He would send me photos of he and his friends together. He would tell me where he was. I visited him a few times and met his family and a few of his friends. After 21/2 years I found out his family and friends was in on the scam to help him get a K1 visa with my help and he had other Facebook accounts which he used different names and he lived in places he didn't really live. He was talking to lots of other women. We had a 17 year age difference. I felt foolish and I don't know where my mind was. I was caught up in the kind sweet words and words I thought were truthful. He treated me like a queen when I was with him. It was an act. He hurt me far worse than I ever imagined I could be hurt. I did not use my head sensibly and I got my heart broken when the truth surfaced. Be cautious Leslie and never believe everything he says. The reality can seem perfect but in fact is a lie because it can be an act to help get what he wants and the chances are he wants a life in a country which has a better life to offer him. The man I was involved with went as far as to tell me after we married he wanted to move to other countries instead of staying in only one to live the rest of our lives. He told me such things to throw me off his real intentions and it worked. He told me we could live in his country but this was not true either.

We are not together anymore after I found out his real intentions.

I wish you the best of luck with this man Leslie but keep your eyes wide open and do not believe everything he says. You have to try to protect yourself.

Best Regards , Cheryl

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