Understandable and sad situation but can be resolved.

Submitted by Neptune (Switzerland), Jul 20, 2017 at 02:31

Dear Mylu,

It's the typical carrot and stick he is playing.He wants to manipulate you to a state of complete submission and he likes to see you fall for his talks of reconciliation.He might have tried some other woman or women so that he can ditch you.Once that failed, he has been trying to woo you.Politeness and etiquette he exhibited are developed with practice.

Get out of this before he breaks you completely.Get in touch with the police and a good lawyer as also a group of close friends -not the one who introduced you to him and vouched for him.He might say he wants to get out of the marriage and you may feel he means it.He ,it seems,wants you to suffer and won't like the idea of you moving away from him so might harm you.Hence the police and for legal advice,the lawyer.Spend a little but get out.

You will get who is destined to be yours and one You will be happy with.Don't despair.Cut of all contact--delete online profile ,change mobile number and everything you need to do to kerp him out of touch--even if that means moving out of the town.Difficult but not impossible.If he is still with you, take initiative and with police's help evict him if it's your place.Don't wait for him to move out since then he will have ample time to torture you.Dob't believw even if he falls at your feet and pleads for one more chance.You have given him many chances already.He can seek revenge even later so keep his name with the police whereby they might keep track of his movements

Be safe and I want you to be happy.I would have helped ypu had I been there.However,any trustworthy person who will stand by you and even ,if it comes to that,physically protect you.You need this.

Don't get scared and emotional.Stand up for your selfrespect.

Warm Regards,

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