Crushed hearted

Submitted by Mylu (United States), Jul 18, 2017 at 20:09

Hello everyone.

Reading these comments I can't believe all the girls in my same situation. This is my story and ill appreciate any advice without judgement.

I met an (Arab) guy trough a friend in common I was recently divorced so I didn't accept going out with him right away but I asked my friend about him and she gave me good references and said he was a good guy from what she knew. He was a little younger then me under 10 years younger than me so that was not the issue. He was very gentle and charming when I met him since the beginning telling me he wanted a serious girl to be his partner in life nsince he was all alone in this country and he was looking for someone to love and share his life with. We started dating and he was always very helpful to me always caring for me in many ways he treated me as if I was his wife from the beginning. But, he started to show red flags too that I of course Ignored cause I was falling for him badly. He was very moody and with a bad temper for simple things.

We got married very soon and the temper started to get worse we had many ups and downs he got irritated very easily and was hard to communicate with him also he was not affectionate and didn't like affection so much and always displayed unhappiness I tried to make him happy with all I had to offer but was never a good outcome. He was always threaten me to leave at every fight we had. At some point he even separated from me living in the same house saying that he didn't want to be married anymore and he slept in a different room I was so crushed and depressed that it was even difficult to me to keep a job so the situation got worse with only him providing for the house.but he wanted to keep the sexual contact between us so this makes me feel used and miserable broke my heart even more.

Finally we got together again the situation got better he told me he wanted to start over with me from zero he wanted to have a good life with me and we tried again . After a short time and some fights he said he was leaving me he didn't want to be married anymore even though he loved me and he packed his things and left me. But he said he didn't want to get divorced so this makes me think is only because he wants to keep his immigration status safe. After a few days he came back locking for me saying he missed me and needed me but I feel this is only physical even if he say the loves me.

I tried to end this situation and tell him that I didn't want to be in this situation anymore like I am his friend with benefits but he comes back saying he misses me but I feel that he is just keeping me warm so I don't go ahead and divorce him.

This is my story please anyone in my situation or with a good advice I'll appreciate it with all my heart.

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