Hate to bust your romantic bubble

Submitted by Chelsea, Jul 17, 2017 at 09:43

Hey dear one.

Blessings to you.

I can relate to you being an artist myself. I too have one who is Pashton as a friend ONLY.

have you done any study as far as how they were raised to treat women??

My friend is beautiful too. Actually the most beautiful man I have ever seen....HOWEVER he is raised differently and will never ever change for you.

It is quite different to romance online than actually to put the cultures together and be happy with life.

He almost unfriended me and fussed at me because I had made a stand for Israel and the Jewish people on a FB post. He said they were awful....I kept my stand on my beliefs. We remained friends only. Just like any other FB friend I have.

The situation for the Pashtons especially in Pakistan is not good. They are looking for escape. I told him straight up that I could not help him and not to play with my heart.

It is true that they may have been part of the lost tribes of Israel. However years have gone by and they are Muslim now and do not care for the Jewish people.

I friended him because he friended one of my female family members and I wanted to watch him. Yep and I told him so..... Given what I had experienced with the Arab.

He still flat out asked me to come to Dubai and he could go there and set up business there because they give loans to Americans. He also asked me to come to Pakistan that he would protect me. He is an afghan refugee in a tribal area. My answer is NO.

may I suggest that you read the online paper called Dawn.

You like me are a romantic and love deeply. I wish not to see your heart broken.

Just because they MAY be descendants of the lost tribes if Israel does not make this more romantic. Please.

They cannot get passports to Israel.

Heart to heart with you...many are looking for escape but that does not mean that you have to save the world.

I know how you feel. Online and real life situations are different.

I would back off slowing from this and reduce this to a friend only situation.

This man told me he loved me and that I was his. Testing him because I have been there already... I asked him oh really?? And how did I happen to become his property?

Women from that area have been killed and attacked with acid for refusing marriage proposals. They are very tribal in nature.

Please take care of yourself and be very careful. You have to look at the full spectrum. The good and the bad.

I don't care how beautiful they are physically....there are very different mindsets and most would do anything...say anything to escape the poverty of their country.

First they are going to want a younger bride....they are going to want children AND your children will be raised in their faith...regardless of what you want. It is just the way it is.

If you can find it in your heart to keep him as a friend only....I believe you would save yourself some headache.

I removed all overseas friends from FB except for this one because of his befriending my family member.

Now that he knows I have no plans to help him.... He will message me about once a month and we keep it as friends just saying hi and how are you doing??

We do not discuss any religious difference and he puts no more pressure on me to help him. I do value him as a friend but would take it no further.

Good luck to you. Be wise...this is your life. Much love.....Chelsea

---

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".