Dear Aussiegirl

Submitted by Sherry, Jun 27, 2017 at 07:48

Hi, You met the typical North African man. They tell you lies and talk to other women. If you talk to another man as friends you have betrayed them. Majority of them come up with stories to tell about sick family members , their house was in a fire, someone cut off their wifi , stole their laptop, lost their job, their phone blew up. It's a lot of BS. Let me tell you if someone wants to talk to you they make time for you! The best medicine you can give him is treat him the way he does you. You will hear from him then if he didn't find a better trophy. I think you should put all this behind you. I'm sorry for the loss of your child. I don't have children either and I don't have what you call baggage. I have a good job. I got coldness and manipulation. He thought I was too stupid to know he talked to other women. I use to see their profiles on Facebook. I would catch him on Skype. Of course he had a lie for that too. I don't buy any of it. I listened to my instincts. In the beginning I didn't but I started learning how MENA men can be to foreign women. Some of them even do their wives like this that's from their country. They are superior in their country. The wife must do as her husband tells her and if she doesn't there will be consequences. If they live in your country it's different because of the laws but you still get lies, BS, and spend a fortune on getting them to your country and most countries you're responsible for them possibly up to 10 years. When they get the green card if in the US they usually leave.

I'm not sure how old you are but if an age difference their family will not accept this unless their willing to be in on a scam , not accept foreigners, not accept non Muslim if they are a Muslim man. They are over sexed. All you hear is I want naked pics. On cam they show you their dick constantly. There's not any respect. It's sex sex sex! There's plenty of sex in their country too. Mainly anal sex because the girl gets to keep her virginity. If you're a western woman they automatically think you're easy. They don't marry women normally who have sex with them before marriage. They will try to make you believe their religion is the greatest in the world after doing all the haram things they do that's suppose to be against Islam's beliefs. Trust me I did my homework in a lot of research and his actions. They have multiple Facebook accounts with different names , say they live someplace they don't , some may appear as a woman . They will have multiple Skype accounts . Be on WhatsApp but be sure you're not so you don't catch them. Mine was on kik for a long time and I knew it before we started using it for each other. He used a different account to talk to me and I never told him I knew about the other one. I'm sure he probably had others too. Their upbringing is different. Many culture differences.

If you don't have any intentions of converting to Islam and covering yourself this will be against the marriage. I say not anyone should convert for a man but for themselves because they believe this is the religion for you. If you read what mine did to me even though we're no longer together and I'm sure it was him. I don't know another foreign source who would do this. It was posted a few days ago about a warning. This is another deceifulness. Mine would tell me you will pay for this and not talk to me for a period of time. Now I don't care if I ever hear from again in my life because he hurt me beyond any pain imaginable. Lie after lie. They love foreign women who will have cam sex and give them material things including money. Read about "Rat Bezness" key it into google and see what pops up. They talk about it to keep communication on how to do what next and what works. Compare western union receipts. It's unreal but true. People have posted on here of women coming from certain backgrounds or looking a certain way (like fat and ugly) , desperate because they can't get a man from their country or lack in dating skills. This may be true with some but not ALL women. I don't see myself this way and I've know others who are not this way but we were taken in by being naive , smooth talk , believed in them.

Once you find out how they are by researching and knowing their actions and say, then you will understand how they operate. I'm sure there's been successful marriages but they are far and in between . As a girl stated on here that longer comes to the forum said it's not worth the risk of possibly going through pure hell before you find out if you have a good one or not. A lot of them want out of their country and into a 1st world country. I know you said this guy wasn't looking for a visa but there's no way I believe you could tolerate him . If he makes you this miserable being apart from him just imagine how awful you would feel if you were with him everyday. It's two different worlds with different beliefs in ways of life. When you go on the internet looking for answers there's big problems in your relationship, Look at how many stories are on this forum alone. For your best interest walk away and never look back

. Best wishes Aussiegirl and let us know how it works out!

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