Asked to be Second Wife

Submitted by Jennifer (United States), Mar 27, 2017 at 22:10

I think I should clarify two things. One, I don't have a boyfriend...that's just my go-to response when someone asks me out, and I'm too nice to say "I'm not interested." Sorry for the confusion. I thought everyone did that.

Secondly, after reading this forum several months ago, I assumed this guy was only interested in having sex with me. I never believed that he would leave his wife, marry me, be a father to my daughter, etc. I thought he was a charming guy who wanted to be with an American girl, and I was interested in participating. I actually convinced myself that it was almost noble because I would not fall in love with him or try to steal him away from his wife. I am aware that this was thoughtless and careless. However, this guy really tried to win me over

. I thought it would be easy to keep things casual, but he was only interested in making me fall in love with him so I would marry him. I actually feel worse than if he had only used me for sex.

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