No need to panic.

Submitted by Neptune (Russia), Mar 20, 2017 at 07:34

Dear Adeline,

There is no need to panic and feel guilty about losing your virginity.All lose it sooner or later and don't have to marry that person.You need not tell anybody about it since then all responses and reactions will make you more miserable.

This person seems to have zeroed in on a young woman with a dysfunctional family and undue guilt about having sex with him.He will be using this very guilt against you to marry you.That won't be love but manipulation.Are you educated/Do you have a good job?you have to be strong and reject him outright.

Get help from police and not from religious leaders and WITHOUT telling them of the intimacy you have shared (no one has any right to know this personal matter), seek support from their counselors or social service branch.They will protect you and help you get rid of him.You can request either of your parents to help you, again without telling them of the intimate relations,saying that this man is pestering you..

If he starts abusing you and mentions sex,be CONFIDENT and level counter accusation to the effect that he is not getting you and so is leveling these accusation in frustration .Virginity can be lost even without having sex,while playing,while riding a bicycle etc.So no one can prove it's because of him.AND don't get into this dangerous behaviour again only to KILL loneliness and depression due to your family problems.Many have them.You have come into this world through them ( using them as vehicle) to fulfill your individual destiny.So don't feel weak or guilty.

I don't know about this man but these people use gullible women like you to get converts and "produce many children' since they are told that they will reach heaven if they get even one convert to Islam.Nobody has returned from death and proved that they have reached heaven.No person has received even an email from God/Allah to confirm their entry into heaven.

Feel free to get in touch with me or any other compassionate person here to be guided. However,we are away from you ,Dear One,you have to therefore manage on your own.

The only solution is to never repeat the same mistake.AGAIN,DO NOT FEEL GUILTY BECAUSE THAT MAKES YOU VULNERABLE TO MANIPULATION BY HIM OR ANY OTHER PERSON INCLUDING A SEEMINGLY RELIGIOUS ONE TO REPEAT THE SAME BLUNDER. You enjoyed sex, now move on. Don't even look at him if he crosses your path. No arguments.Just a vehement NO to him and before that get the Police's social service branch.He might try to harm you.

Best luck,- dear girl.

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