S m

Submitted by Siobhan (United States), Jan 31, 2017 at 10:05

Dear S m,

Your story made me sad and so angry. Do you have to marry this person? Do you have a choice in this decision?
If you do, then please DO NOT marry him.
I promise you, your life will be miserable and filled with regrets. The early stage of a relationship is usually the best, when we try to impress each other. This guy is already mean and insensitive, so can you imagine later in the relationship when familiarity starts to breed contempt?
It sounds like he might even get physically abusive too.

Do you really have a reason to love this guy who treats you this way? I think not.
What I do believe is; he has been so critical of you, that it has damaged your self-esteem and you are hoping he will return your love. Love does not treat people the way he does.

You are a smart and intelligent woman and he knows it too. That's why he wants to kill your confidence and make you submissive.
Don't fall for it. You deserve so much better. Find yourself a real man who will cherish you and love you in the way you deserve.

Welcome to the forum and please keep us informed of your progress.

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