Update to My Story

Submitted by Mel (United States), Jun 16, 2016 at 22:54

I wanted to give the community an update on my progress. Special thanks to all the wonderful friends in this forum who read my story.

I am 2 wks post breakup from my EGB. My EGB hasn't stopped trying to convince me his feelings are genuine, that he loves me & wants to be with me. I stopped talking to him for over a week, blocked him out of my life completely cut the cord! Last Sunday he called me from a number I didn't know and wasn't on my phone's block list. I did talk to him, he's currently still in Egypt but says he's coming back to Miami in a few months. He still hasn't got that pilot license (LOL)! As difficult as it is I will not be going back to him. I refuse to be subjected to that abuse again. Right now he is talking sweet like nothing happened. I still have deep feelings for him and I know it will take time to go away. Since he left for Egypt I begin working on myself to get back to the person I use to be, it's a process not easy. I went to see a therapist for a chat session, saw my primary care doctor who prescribed an anti-depressant. Enrolled in Spanish language class. I've begun the slow process of getting out of the house & trying to start enjoying my own company again. Although I have been flirted with, at this moment I can't see myself dating for awhile. I loss alittle more weight my appetite hasn't fully returned. I am getting more sleep. All this has helped me feel better and heal from this experience. I still have a long way to go but at 26 yrs old I know I can do it.

I know my EGB will not give up the charade for awhile and will continue to try to fill my mind with false statements. The memories of emotional & verbal abuse, racism, lack of respect and no affection will speak louder in my mind than anything he has to say. My family & friends although they are not in the same state with me they have been encouraging not supportive thou. They are nervous I will go back to him and if I do I may not live to see another day....

I will update again in 2 wks. Be strong friends! If your relationship with an Arab guy is not working don't hope it will change or he will change! Just get out it will be a lot less costly....

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