yes i feel the same

Submitted by Mama of a non muslim son (Netherlands), Jan 30, 2015 at 15:43

What a great story! And yes, I feel you.

My ex lives in India. I don't wanna talk right what he did and is probably still doing, but I can also see where it comes from. I've been to his home. When I am in India I kinda forget the west and all the luxery we have. I can't tell poor from very poor there, I can't compare to what we have here.

Part of the behaviour is rooted in their culture and it never evolved. Now the world is developing so fast that these cultures cannot keep up, so they crash.

It is evil. Very evil. You use women for sex, money and visa. But we let it happen. There is always a counterside on a relationship. They use us, we let them use us. For me the lesson is to listen to my gut. To take red flags serious and to not let anyone f*** with my mind. I can smell a narcissist or a borderliner from big distance now.

There has to be a balance between our infinite trust and our naivety. I wasn.t planning to lose this trust in humanity or men. But I have to understand circumstances make people lose their innocence and purety. Poverty, culture, crooks religion.... Overthinking and overanalysing separates the body from the mind. We have to feel again. Our gut feeling is not a voice in our head, it's a feeeellliiinnngggg...

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