Dealing with Arab guy....be careful

Submitted by true girl (Indonesia), Dec 13, 2013 at 05:15

If it comes to situation 'dealing with Arab guy'...the idea that comes up is 'tempting'..'seductive'...'sexy'...'romantic'...then 'impulsive'...'deceitful'...'Foolishness'. I met this Kuwaiti guy as my tourist on the trip to Bali Island. At first, I dealt with him professionally since I regard my self as a professional tour guide. I'm a moslem myself, a typical Indonesian young woman. I've met people from all over the world. So meeting this average-typical gulf Arab guys was not something special. But then 2 days later things started to change. Don't know why & how he moved by skeptical heart toward Arab tourist change. The way he treated me feels like I'm the guest and he's the host of the island. He keps staring at me,spoke in well mannered-type of gentleman,held my hand when walking through the rice field,insisted to take me back to hotel I stayed (we stayed at different hotels),asked me to accompany him for dinner. His acting appeared to everyone around us that he likes me. And he always said that he chose the wrong hotels to stay (in Ubud & Kuta), coz both hotels were very expensive 5 star located in very quiet places that suits honeymooners. And how misarable to stay alone. But in other time he told me that he's experienced to book hotels since he travels a lot.

So,how come he's mistaken choosing&deciding to stay at very expensive 5 stars hotels that have full information on website? He could have made virtual inspection on it. Then he said he'll come again to Bali with his family. He asks me things about my daily personal life and family.He said he must take trip to Java Island since I'm basically not Balinese (who mostly practice Hinduism). And he promised to see me again. And...the big question come 'Would you like to go to Kuwait after this?' I'll show you around. If it's a non Arab guy, I would have been excited to have this kind of attention..and seduced....but Arab, they already have bad reputation as tourists in Indonesia, the largest populated moslem country in the world. So, I kept distance & stay professional. And he seemed not to give up. He tried to impressed me in a way I can't explain.

He finally changed my opinion that not all Arab are jerk. He must be the good one. But still I stick with my pride as woman&a professional one to not take any personal emotion&be fooled by the guest. I don't want to have bad reputation & be seen dating with Arab. Then the day for him to leave came. He look so sad. I had no idea if it's because of me, because of the impression of Bali as the Island of Gods or he just pretend to look missing me. He said that we should keep contact. And...the bad thing happen after he returned to his country. I couldn't sleep for nights. I became miserably missing him. And this happen for months. And the worst is that I felt like he talked to me and pushing me to marry him. It once made me crying at myself then screaming yes I'll marry you. Just like an insane. And Then I consulted someone, who understand about this problem. He said that I've been under his spell. He suggested me to contact him first through email. I didn't want to,but I had to. After having contact, it seems the spell just dissapear. And we chat through WA. We talk about wonderful tourism destinations. He said he'd go wherever I go. And he keeps asking me if I want to go to.Kuwait to meet him and have a better life.But what I hate is that he finally makes me just someone who's gotta to be there when he need someone to chat. But if he's not in the mood, he doesn't even answer me. Well YES...I suggest not to have a relationship with Arab guy...It doesn't refer to the reality that he's a muslim...coz I'm muslim,too. And Indonesian muslim guys are not like that....it's just the guy is Arab.

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