69 million page views

Don't have serious relationship with muslim guys

Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men

Submitted by Lilia (Russia), Mar 29, 2013 at 10:13

Don't have serious relationship with muslim guys. I had experience and also know some girls who dated arab guys and I think that they are good only for fling, not for relationship. At least if you take relationship serious like me. If you don't want anything serious have a good time with them, hang out, have romantic evenings, have sex, they are good at all of this. But don't take as a truth what they tell you, don't open to them your heart and soul even if they seem sincere to you. If you are attracted to arab guy just have a good time and move on like they do.

I had an a experience with the guy who was algerian french. I visited USA by myself as tourist and wanted to make friends online. So I met this guy online, he was living in a city I was going to visit, we talked for a month on a daily basis and he seemed very nice and very dedicated to me. He was very charming, very handsome. He looked european and came there from France, so maybe that's why I didn't get him us arab guy at first (berber in his case). I didn't really care much because I just wanted someone to hang out with. When I came there we had a really good time, he tried his best, met me in airport, went early from work every day to spend more time with me, took me to restaurants and beautiful places. But he couldn't stop talking how much he liked me, how I was the best girl he ever met, how we were made for each other, how he wants to give us a try, he told me how he wanted me to come to live with him for few months and blah blah blah. He made me feel that I'm special to him, that he cares. He stared me in the eyes with a look fool of tenderness and love. Magic trick. And somehow I fell in love. But the situation of this guy wasn't very good, he was married for a green card and he was paying money to that girl and, as he told me, she wanted more and more money from him. He was working 12 hours a day to pay her and to pay for his college, he was getting american education because his diploma didn't worth anything there. I didn't care, there were feelings. We talked how we will be together, he said that he will rent an apartment by himself (he rented apartment with friends at that time) and I can move in with him and he will help me while I will try to find job for work visa. Crazy, because I have a good job where I live.

When I came back I felt that I want to be with this guy so much, I even started to look for work and internships near his city. At first weeks he missed me so much, texted me a lot, he begged me to talk to him on skype before he goes to sleep because he couldn't get used to being without me. I'm sure that he had a lot of passion. But 2 weeks later he was over me, sometimes he didn't reply to my messages or gave a shady answers to my questions, but still texted me once a week that he missed me. All of this made me suffer really bad for few months, I felt like he broke my heart. I know that idea of us being together was just silly and I think he couldn't afford me, but at that time I felt like I was under some spell.

After reading this forum I think that I was really lucky that circumstances were like that. In a different situation he would make me come to live with him and use me for sex till he gets bored with me, he would tell me what to wear, control me and see other girls at the same time, like many girls here wrote. I'm not stereotypical, I just remembered the signs he showed when we were together and he seems like that type of a guy. I'm really glad that he left me alone, because this guy gained my trust so easily and found a way to my heart so fast, that it seems to me that he could get away with everything. I wouldn't say he is good or bad person, he haven't done anything bad to me actually. I had a wonderful time with him. But I'm absolutely sure that I will never let an algerian or any arab guy around me again, this guys are easy with lies and fake promises and really hard to figure out. So I want to tell everyone: Be careful and never believe what they say, look what they do.

Also want to thank everyone on this forum who shares their stories. I think that it can prevent a lot of women from getting into trouble.

Submitting....

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".

Comment on this item

Mark my comment as a response to Don't have serious relationship with muslim guys by Lilia

Email me if someone replies to my comment

Note: Opinions expressed in comments are those of the authors alone and not necessarily those of Daniel Pipes. Original writing only, please. Comments are screened and in some cases edited before posting. Reasoned disagreement is welcome but not comments that are scurrilous, off-topic, commercial, disparaging religions, or otherwise inappropriate. For complete regulations, see the "Guidelines for Reader Comments".

See recent outstanding comments.

Follow Daniel Pipes

Facebook   Twitter   RSS   Join Mailing List

All materials by Daniel Pipes on this site: © 1968-2023 Daniel Pipes. daniel.pipes@gmail.com and @DanielPipes

Support Daniel Pipes' work with a tax-deductible donation to the Middle East Forum.Daniel J. Pipes

(The MEF is a publicly supported, nonprofit organization under section 501(c)3 of the Internal Revenue Code.

Contributions are tax deductible to the full extent allowed by law. Tax-ID 23-774-9796, approved Apr. 27, 1998.

For more information, view our IRS letter of determination.)