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Submitted by Ayesh (Saudi Arabia), Jul 25, 2013 at 09:51

Hi there, I understand where you're coming from. You have fell in love, tricked, used and then left. I heard and read many articles about turkish males doing the same thing to women outside of their country particularly for western women, like they will make them fall in love with them and then ask them for some help with regards to money matters or materials things in a form of gifts, I've heared lots of this kind of stories.But I want to let you know that people varies, and we should not generalize people's way and attitude. It's just a matter of being careful and having the presence of mind. Yes, you two met and It was fantasy and by the time he was asking money from you, should you have asked yourself why a stranger is asking money form you? and what right he has to be angry at you when he wasn't pleased..Things like that should have warned you in the very beginning.. As I said, not all Turkish men are like that of the one you've met before.. I have turkish male friend and he is the most polite, kind and unpervert turkish male I've met. Yes, he is indeed muslim, and he loves his God and fears Him that's why he has a fear of treating females the wrong way. He respects me a lot and even my religion as a Christian. I've met other Turkish males before aside from him who have these charming and sweet words and by the time I sensed that they are just after pleasures or even sex, right away I turned my back on them and tell them that I'm not the kind they are looking for. It's really a matter of following your instinct and trying to question the things they are asking from you. My advice, don't be afraid to meet again or to even fall in love on one of them, just do the right thing next time..Give it a time to know him, to understand his purpose, to read his intentions and if you sense the wrong air again then you know what to do, but if you noticed that he is different that he has also a heart and only seeking for real friendship then I would say give it a shot!

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