For Becs

Submitted by syk (United Kingdom), Jul 15, 2013 at 07:30

Hi Becs

Thanks for replying! I just thought people would get bored and say "oh god leave him already!" I think I'm just trying to make sense of it, even when there is no sense.

On Wednesday night, he accused me of lying about where I was. I was out for a walk with my sister, trying to clear my head. And he said you are lying to me. And something about being at a party.

We had a "discussion" last thursday, I was fully prepared to end it. So I thought there is no harm in saying what I want to say. My conscience is clear, I've never treated him badly.

This will be a bit of "he said/she said" sorry about that.

After talking for a while, he said "Do you love me until you will accept muslim?" I said "See this is my problem, because love is NOT based on conditions and wanting to change someone, I never once asked you not to be muslim to be with me" He asked me to explain it. I said "When you love someone, you love them for who they are, not for what you can do to change them" He said "You mean I don't change you?" I said "I mean you don't put conditions on love. Compromising is normal in a relationship, ultimatums and conditions are not." He said "Then you don't love me" I said "That is not true" He said "I will be sure when we begin to live in Scotland" I said "What do you mean?" He said "I will see your behaviour against me" I said "Against you?" He said "Yes I hope you can stay the same" I said "I'm not a bad person" He said "I know darling". Before I had a chance to digest what he had just said he had to go because it was worship time.

At that point I was furious, my behaviour against him?! What about his behaviour towards me?! And does he really think I would marry him and bring him here knowing his attitude?

He missed called me on Friday. Then nothing on Saturday (and I wasn't calling him). Last night he messaged me and moaned at me for not calling all weekend. I said I thought you were too busy. He said Yes I could be busy, were you busy? I said "No, just didn't want to disturb him" He said "Ok I understand busy and I can't reply, but now I'm busy, see you" And went away.

He's on facebook now clearly in a mood just saying "hi" and of course not believing anything I say. Such an angry man. And I think today is the end. My email address is: syksyk@hotmail.com. I set it up especially.

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