To Cindy

Submitted by RLT (United States), May 8, 2013 at 23:48

Dearest Cindy,

Just read your last message, and was happy to hear from you. Please know that I care and am here for you! Cindy - Your experience with this muslim man is very similar to mine and likely many of us here.

When you mentioned he added a lady to his facebook and then completely denied it stating someone else must have done it, it reminded me of the muslim man I was involved with who did and said the same thing. First he said - "Oh, I think I left my facebook page open when I was at the internet cafe and someone there must have added her". Then another time when he was in the shower, I looked at his history via his computer and found webcam chats with naked women. His response? "Oh, I had to take my computer in for repair and the engineer must have done that".

Cindy - I'm am here to tell you, these men will look you straight in the eye and lie to you and in the next breath they are professing their love for you! It's not a sin in Islam to lie to infidels and don't let anyone tell you any different. Cindy - I was like you, I LOVED this man - I gave him over two years of my life -and- he even went out of his way to talk with my family and told them how much he loved me and that he would be a wonderful husband to me. (Of course my family didn't believe him for one minute- they could see straight through him - and begged me not to go to Egypt) BUT - I WENT ANYWAY! I learned the hard way Cindy - THE VERY HARD WAY!

When I got on that plane (after months of living in hell in Egypt) to return to the states, I made a promise to God and to the Daniel Pipes to share my story and help others who are considering a relationship with a muslim man. Cindy - please understand - It says in the Bible - "Corinthians 6:14 - Do not be yoked together with unbelievers" Islam worships "Allah" - we worship- "Jesus". Religion is important in a relationship. In a muslim's twisted mind they are regarded as hero's (for lack of a better term) when they can get us infidels to convert. NEVER would I leave Christianity for Islam. NEVER! Oh, but how he wanted me to, it wasn't because he loved me, it was because Muslims want to convert everyone and take over the world. When my muslim man realized I would never convert - he said..."F*** Jesus* Yes, Cindy I learned this (after) I had gone to Egypt.

During the time we spoke on cam - his reply was always - "Oh my lovely - you can keep your religion) Just another one of his manipulative lie's. As for your age difference - Cindy - I am SO sorry to break your heart - BUT- it's just not accepted very well in Islam. These men want to marry young virgin women (untouched) - and they eventually do! But before they can a marry muslim women (or the four wives they are allowed) they have to come up with what they call a dowry -money- and supply them with a flat (apartment) and have enough money to support them. Once they have established that, then both families agree and they marry. So - in the meantime, they scam foreign women, get all they can from them - $$$$$ - or- try to move to your country - get citizenship - then after that (trust me Cindy) - you will be GONE!

Also - these men WANT babies - children - it's important to them in Islam! Don't let your muslim man try to fool you either as he may claim (oh it's not important to me) Ohhhhh - YES IT IS - and also to his family! I know these words are hard to hear, and I am so sorry - but it's a start in the right direction for you. Cindy - if you plan to talk to him again - I want you to say this - "Ya know Muhammad, I don't want you to come to Canada and live, I want to live with you in Egypt - forever - just you and I" See what he says Cindy! He will likely say "OK" but trust me - his mind will be reeling - (clue) and at some point he will refer back to coming to Canada (another clue) and it won't be because he loves you. What I REALLY hope you will do Cindy - is LEAVE him. You do NOT owe him any reasons why you are leaving - because- he knows damn well why - he will have figured you caught on to his lie's. Speaking from experience - It hurt like HELL when I had to force myself to get out of the relationship - I was like you - I LOVED him - BUT - it was the BEST thing I EVER did! He never loved me, it was just BUSINESS - as- it is for your muslim man.

Don't be played a fool any longer Cindy. Close the door - cut him off from every direction -and don't even give him a second thought. Don't answer his calls, don't answer any e-mails, delete him from Skype, Yahoo, Facebook, etc.... Any pictures you have of him - get rid of them - and move forward from there. I'm not saying it is going to be easy - but - each day that passes you will be proud of yourself and will no longer be played a fool! And - at the dawn of each new day - you will find yourself becoming - happier -stronger and wiser. God know's what you are going through Cindy - he is walking right there beside you - and - so am I. God DOES have a better plan for your life and future - but it's NOT with a muslim man. So close the door and open the window and let God bring the right person into your life.

Much Love to you Cindy - as always - I am here for you anytime! *Hugs* ----------- Please stay in touch--------

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