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Why I love my Algerian man...Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Maria (United States), Apr 3, 2013 at 11:26 I don't know about other people's experiences or about other men, but I can speak for myself and my man and our relationship. And I do so, because there are so many negative stories, and, unfortunately, the bad experiences of others create a lot of bad ideas and a lot of judgmental and negative attitudes towards Middle Eastern/Muslim men. In my case, my boyfriend is Algerian and he is Muslim. Our relationship is not perfect and religion is definitely an obstacle. I don't think I can convert to his and he doesn't think he can convert to mine. However, I know that he loves me and I respect his beliefs and his traditions. In fact, one of the things I love about him is his respect for his religion and the importance he gives to his values. I will not criticize him for this. Although I don't agree with everything in his religion, I appreciate his maturity and his desire to observe his religion and practice it. There are bad people everywhere and in any culture you can find people that are not serious and are just playing around and want to have fun. In fact, I come from a culture (Latin) in which this is very common. Many men in my culture are abusive and treat their women like dirt. So, to say that all Muslim guys disrespect women and treat them like objects because of their culture or religion, is not accurate and it shows ignorance about the reality of life in any culture. Like I said, our relationship is not perfect and I am not sure if it will work out. But I can tell you this, if it does not work out, it will not be because he treated me badly or took advantage of me. He has done nothing but be honest and loving from the beginning. If truth be told, he is the sweetest, most tender, and kind-hearted man I have ever met. His deep concern for my well-being and for my feelings is evident in everything that he does for me and in his patience in listening to me and caring about what I think and what I feel. Even though we have the obstacle of religion, I know that he loves me and is serious because he goes out of his way to visit me and make our relationship work (we are in different cities now). Even though he has his beliefs, and would like me to share them, he doesn't force me to do anything and doesn't try to isolate me from my family or my own beliefs and traditions. One of the things that I find so special and important is that he talks to his mom and his family about me. I even spoke with his mom one time, and it was so nice to know that I was so important to him that he wanted to introduce me to his family. He also wants me to go with him to Algeria to meet his family and learn more about his culture and traditions :) These are just some of the things that tell me that he loves me and that he takes our relationship seriously. Besides these examples, I also know it in my heart. Even though there are moments of doubt because of our differences, in my heart I know that he is honest. I am naturally a very emotional person who thinks a lot and can get confused and frustrated in my thinking easily, yet he is always so patient and loving. His patience and consideration for me is unbelievable because I can imagine that I can be pretty tiring and annoying when I get very emotional. We have been together for almost a year now and he has never stopped reassuring me of his love and respect for me. So, I think that is definitely important. If you don't feel loved or appreciated in your relationship, then you are right to doubt it and think you are being used. That is not my case, but if it is the case for someone reading this,it is not because he is Muslim. It is just because he is a jerk. And there are jerks in every part of the world. In conclusion, my boyfriend is Muslim and he is a wonderful man. He is very responsible and hard-working. He doesn't conform to what everybody else does or thinks and he has his own, independent, intelligent way of thinking. He challenges himself and others around him to better themselves and have goals in life. He is so considerate, kind, patient, tender, sensitive, and passionate. He is not concerned with appearances or with having lots of money to show off. He loves his family and desires to have his own family one day. Family is important to him and so is his faith and his God. Despite the obstacles, we hope to one day get married and have our own family. I know it won't be easy and I know he isn't perfect, but neither am I. He makes me want to be a good wife to him and a good mother to our children. I want to stand by him and support and help him in all his goals and dreams. And that is why I love my Algerian man. Submitting....
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