Any Advice?

Submitted by guest reader (United States), Nov 30, 2012 at 21:47

Men are all unique in their own ways. I am wondering what your past experiences are with other men you have dated? Did they spend nights at odd times with you? You see.. it is all very secretive just as you say. You are the secret gf. He has to be home at 9 pm. You get off at 9 pm. Like right. :( He can never be with you when you get off work? Those kind of relationships just dont last.

It reminds me of a friend who was married, her husband worked till 10 at night and she went to work at 11 at night . They had two little boys. They saw each other in the morning for a few hours. But they really never saw each other. You can guess that their marriage didnt survive. You wouldnt want a relationship like that forever? Hopefully not!

Get a grip and just say "No more." You are not a possession. You are a person with feelings, thoughts, wants and needs. Make those needs reality and stop living a pretend life of sex here and there. Stop accepting flowers, and birds as permission for him to Keep you in his Hold. You can and will do better.

Good Luck! :)

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