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Any advice?Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by CDNFLEUR (Canada), Nov 23, 2012 at 21:38 Hi everyone I met a Muslim man online 6 weeks ago. He was born in Canada but his parents are from Pakistan and Saudi Arabia. I really like this person, but there are certainly a lot of red flags and I wanted to get your perspective on them. FIrst of all he is 4 years younger than me. Not a big deal, but initially he lied and said he was 26 when later he told me he was 24. He says the most romantic things to me, and pushed a serious relationship right away, and now I feel I have become very attached to him. However, things just do not seem right. Although he says he loves me so much, other than the first 2 times we met, we have not gone for a proper date. At first he was calling me and texting me and wanting to see me all the time, emailing me at work, and even coming to see me on my breaks. Now he randomly comes over to my house (without invitation and can spend like an hour with me, sometimes we just sit in his car) His situation is very strange to me. He says he cannot tell his parents about me as they will not like that I am white and will disown him. His mom is sick and lives in his house and he takes care of her and has to be home everynight by 9pm, and I work until 9pm every night. On weekends when we both have off, I do not hear from him because he says he's spending time with his family and it's rude to talk on the phone...but he'll call at like 2 in the morning wanting to 'sneak' over for an hour. When he is with me, mostly we just have sex, and as soon as we're done he leaves. He is always looking at his watch. He keeps telling me he loves me so much and I'm his everything and he always misses me. I asked him what sort of future we have if he can't even tell his parents about me and he tells me to relax and things happen in time. I feel like a dirty shameful secret. I expressed this to him and about wanting to spend some real quality time with him and he said that I should be grateful for the things I do have because someday I might not have them anymore! He keeps saying he wants to marry me and have kids with me. He drops hints about not liking my clothing and about not wanting me to eat pork. When he calls me and I do not answer right away, he seems to get upset and wanting to know where I am and why I didn't answer the phone. He's even told me to bring the phone in the bathroom wiht me when I am showering or keep it on me at the gym in case he calls! but when I call him he does not answer or return my phone calls. and one day late in the middle of the night he got a text at like 3 am and I asked him who it was and he ignored me so i asked again and he said 'a friend from toronto' We are in the west, so what sort of friend is texting him at like 5 in the morning!!? He lost his virginity to me....he says he has been single for 4 years before meeting me, his prior relationship lasted 2 years and he caught her cheating on him....he says he never slept with her because he did not love her. I asked him why he slept with me and he says he has never been in love before and he wanted to express that love, he couldn't control himself. Although his ex and him have been broken up for 4 years, she still calls him all the time, wanting him back.... Last week he asked me for money to buy a new Iphone!!! Whenever I am ready to write this guy off he does and says the sweetest things. He brings me flowers and budgies (real birds) and talks about our future together and wanting to spend time with me, but he is obligated to his familiy. He talks about running away wiht me... I really just don't know if this guy is for real, or he's just playing games, I have no idea. Any advise would be most welcomed, thank you! Submitting....
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