Response to Sylvia on warning signs

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Oct 14, 2012 at 18:36

thank you for all of your feedback. Before I started talking to him through FB and Skype, I would have been saying the same things as all of you. It is only recently that doubt has been entering my mind, after I've told some friends, whom have given me negative feedback.

You really need to ask yourself why you started looking up this information in the first place. You'll notice that not very many Morroccan or Muslim women come on here telling us about their horrible life with horrible husbands because people who are secure in their relationships don't need to ask questions or profess their love on-line.

No, always wants to skype and talk.

You're still not getting the full range of communication here.

-Have been trying and failed each time.

Maybe he just hasn't been caught yet. It's not an easy thing to do know because social networking sites have upgraded and made user privacy much more effective and efficient.

-He actually offered to pay my airfare if/when I decide to visit him and his family.

You also have to be wary of people who make these kinds of promises.

Trust me, I have read about all the warning signs, and the only one that has come to question is the age difference, however, when I addressed this to him, he said that he has not problem with it and that even the prophet Mohammed had an older wife.

I've heard that excuse on here before, too. Older women are a targeted group for a VISA scam.

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He has also agreed to try to find a job here (temporary work), and if not possible, then a tourist visa, because we both need to make sure what we are feeling will get even stronger when we meet and spend time together - before thinking of marriage.

That's not consistent with what you said in another post:

With this guy, I am looking at marriage in a beautiful way.

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I think, in my situation, I am thinking it is too good to be true

Well, Sylvia, I think it probably is too good to be true. The warning signs are a guide that really just help women settle their minds. Sometimes, they may not even be apparent. Being older than he is is a problem, and trust me, the whole "Mohammed had an older wife" excuse has been touted on here before too.

because I have had such a tough life; betrayals; lies, deceitful people, and when he came along....(No, he does not know the details of the hard life I've had - I know not to show vulnerability, weakness, insecurity as some prey on that).

I am sorry about the difficulties that you have had, but even if you don't realize it, you can still be seen as vulnerable.

These on-line encounters are a gamble at best and a lot of people will sign up for them and not follow through just because the risk and finance is too much of a headache.

I would strongly advise against this.

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