Disappointed

Submitted by VARIKAT (United States), Aug 14, 2012 at 18:47

I am more disappointed then anything. Ashamed because I was warned before hand and gave him the benefit of doubt hoping he would be different. He is not into religion. If he were, I definitely would not have married him. I never see him praying but he has spoke on it in a conversation. I did not think to save the history page where he went on Muslim Dating Sites and I have already confronted him about it and he lied and said it popped up. I never seen any pop-ups on my computer and the only way It will get in the history of the computer is he would have had to go on it. He knows he has lost my trust. We use to talk about starting a business together but now I don't even comment when he speak on it. I want to have the marriage annulled and I feel with the facts a week after he was here he got a job with people from his country. He wanted to get his own P.O. Box and then his own bank account. I don't know what he has been talking to the banker about but a month later he told me he wanted to add me to his bank account. I believe whatever he wants to do he must needed more income to do it, I really don't know, I didn't do it. Because I have 3 bank accts (20 yrs old) and had thought about adding him until I saw that he was trying to establish himself without me. I thank God I didn't do it.

We are not together now, he's living with his boss. Immigration told him when he arrived that because he has a greencard does not mean it can't be revoked and they will visit him after 6 months and a year to see how he's doing. I advised him to go back home before they do decide to visit my home because I will not lie for him or let him use me any longer. Tell me this, he slipped at work and had to go to the ER. He is claiming he hurt his back. If they deport him or if he leaves will I be responsible for the bill. We didn't stay together long enough for me to add him to my insurance. I talked with his boss about helping with a work visa. He has two small children back home and I know they need him.

I am sorry for the kids but I just want to wash my hands of him so nothing will haunt me in the future. If they lock him up a few months in detention before deporting him, I'm sorry. This is what his boss said would happen to him. I'm not scorn because I blame myself more than anything. I just don't want any of this to come back on me. If I had saw this site I would have never married him. I had surgery recently and soon as I'm able to get out, I will get an attorney. His boss, friends whomever may help him fight it, I don't know. I'm praying to God that I am able to erase my name from being any where attached to this man.

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