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Submitted by Anna (United States), Mar 28, 2012 at 09:56

Hello! Thank you for writing. I have income from property I sold with my brother a few years ago and that is our income. Plus, neither one of us really saw the need for him to get a job because we were planning on moving to Morocco, but of course, that is out of the question now! BUT, remember that we have a prenuptial agreement and it is IRON CLAD. He signed it three weeks before we got married in 2007. If we divorce, he gets nothing! Our daughter and my son from my previous marriage get everything. OH! I have no clue as to how he is going to pay for the credit card bill (the card is in HIS name, NOT mine!) that he racked up with the hotels (6 times total) he took that girl to and the restaurants and evenings at Blue Martini. OH! WAIT! He told me that he let his friend use his credit card and that it was really HIM who cheated. I guess I should call HIM and ask him to give my husband the cash for those bills! OH! Sorry again! They all cover for each other. I already called that guy and he said, yes, he used the card. What a lie!

Next, you asked "What exactly do you love about him?" That is such a good question and I really had to think about it! I love the person he was when we got married and we were happy (or so I thought) when we went to Morocco when I was pregnant and I think he really did love me once. He told me the other day that he has not been happy for quite some time and he feels like he is missing out if he doesn't go out with his male friends. Wow! That translates into going out and meeting girls when I am not there. I am not stupid like some people who read this might think. Anyway, one thing I love about him is that our daughter adores him and he loves her. I can see that. She would never know that he is a cheater because I don't believe she needs to know things about him that are negative. No, I don't want her growing up thinking that it is okay for a man to cheat. The older she gets, the harder it will be for me to separate from him because she would miss him.

Yes, both of his previous "conquests" have been 19 and 20.

NO WAY would he stay with me if I did the things he has done! He would hate the thought that I even TALKED to another man. Are you kidding me? He wants to have his cake (me at home) and eat it, too.

Of course, if a female friend told me this, I would tell her to LEAVE HIM!

Yes, I still check his credit card statement and his phone. You better believe it! However, that is not how I want to live the rest of my life. I wish I was stronger and not believe him when he tells me that he loves me and is sorry (only for going to the nightclub behind my back, mind you!) He never admitted cheating because he KNOWS that would be it for us. Why he hangs on to me is a mystery. I have to get up the courage to leave him and start a new life. Can you believe he told me that he would worry about us living alone and could we still live together and have "relations?" Oh,please. More later.

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