To Anna

Submitted by Irene (Denmark), Mar 20, 2012 at 12:03

Dear Anna,

I know exactly how you feel. My ex started cheating few months after I got pregnant. It was such a devastating experience. He destroyed my life, he broke every single part of my personality, he twisted my idea of a normal home life and he took my ability to trust a man away FOREVER. I know most of the guys cheat, I know they have different nature and needs and bla bla... we all have listened for all these excuses for millions times. But these muslim men are unbelievably cynical and awful in the way they do it. They never fell ashamed of themselves, giving you explanations that simply a two years old would not accept. They do not seem to care at all they stabbed you right in your heart. They do not cheat even for the sex itself because sometimes it is enough for them to have 1000 chatmates or to phone and text the girls, not even meeting them. They do it just because they are freaking mentally disordered monsters, will lots of lacks in their development. They need to feel dirty I guess.

They are just nothing to feel sorry you have lost. And they do not deserve real love, warm feelings and honest relationships. I wish to all of them a very lonely lifetime, wasted in the way only a male whore could waste it and no one next to them when they need a truly devoted partner. But the problem is that they can not feel lonely, they do not care about what we do, its no difference for them if they live this life alone or not( in their wallets maybe, in their beds maybe, but not in their hearts, not at all). I have never been able to prove if my ex had actually slept with another girl, or even met her in a cafe.NEVER!!! But it was more than enough to see girls phone numbers written with guys names, to find out he had a fake facebook profile and few more fake accounts in different dating websites, to see his phone off most of the time, to figure out he was changing his passwords every time I was able to break them and log in, and finally to find his secret sim card used in a phone kept in the car. I left him long time ago because no matter how much I was trying to convince myself it was nothing there, just talk with strangers, I couldnt. You should be a 100% pervert to do that.

But I am still asking myself WHY he was doing this, what he was missing at home to have needs to flirt with girls online and to spend crazy money to call them abroad, if he would not even meet them for sex. Then WHAT THE HELL!!! Something should be really wrong with him. I was blaming myself at first, but not for too long. I was giving him all a man needs, but nothing could be enough for a sick and selfish man like him. And every time the excuse was - she is just a friend, she just asked me a question or she only wanted to talk to me. At the same time I was not allowed to have one guy in my phone, or life, except my father and brother. I used to be also recorded by camera when he was out of the house, and followed by a private detective when I was going outside. What For??? I guess to prove himself I was doing the same like him. Loser! Now I see why he was not able to trust me even for a second, because he was thinking of me the way he was thinking of himself. Pathetic!!!

So, Anna, these guys are too ugly in the way they see us, the women, no matter westerners or eastern ones. Its in their culture, in the way they turn their rights given by their religion, its all about their perverted minds! You have tried to work things out. You have given him a chance to fix his mistakes.At least now you know he wouldnt change! Time heals! Its so damn easy to say and so so difficult to do it, but no matter how long it will take, one day he will be just a bad memory for you which will not hurt any more! You deserve better!

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