everyone was right. once a cheater, always a cheater

Submitted by Anna (United States), Mar 18, 2012 at 23:50

Good evening, everyone. I wrote about my cheating Moroccan husband back in November of 2010, when I foolishly believed that he would change and not cheat and we would raise our child together. I WARNED him that if he cheated again, I would leave and I did. TODAY

It only took him 13 months to start cheating again. This time was worse because I allowed him to lie to me and do it again. I checked his phone in February of this year and sure enough, I saw a strange number come up about every three days or so. I called it. It was a female, of course, only 19 years old. He told her he is 28, but he really is 32. She told me everything, just like the other girl did. He met her in his college class and asked to take her for coffee. She told me she never saw a ring on his finger. Can you believe he knows I check his phone log online and he STILL didn't care that I might see a number and actually call it? I know all his friends phone numbers, but this one I didn't. He didn't seem too concerned. He was very blase about it. He told me he didn't know who it was! WHAT A LIE! I think he even believes his own lies.

The girl told me that they went to another city together and went to a hotel. I got online with his credit card activity and she was telling the truth. She told me that his friends, whom I know and look me in the face and tell me they are my friend, are in on it! Two of his good friends knew all about it. They were there when he took her to our local hookah cafe and they know my husband is married and has a little child! It is unbelievable. He still did not want to admit, even when I confronted him with the credit card statement. He told me he let his friend use his card to cheat with HIS girlfriend. What a lie. I packed my stuff, took my child and left. He ought to be ashamed of himself. I told him that he hurt me so badly and he just begged me to stay, but I cannot live with these lies. It is not fair and no one should do it. I doubt that I will ever trust a man again. He ruined me. I am so thankful that I have my daughter. She is my light and my hope. I will remind everyone...listen to that little voice in your head. It is telling you the truth!

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