Our way

Submitted by Ajda (United States), Feb 3, 2021 at 13:21

As-salamu alaykum everyone,

I see so many sad comments from angry women saying pejorative things about Muslim men, the culture, always talking about the unhappy Muslim married women they know etc.

I just want to point out that these unhappy Muslim married women are the minority.

The majority of us are happy and in our view, blessed by Allah that our religion provides us with many benefits and elevations that women of other religions do not share. From my age as a girl, I was not permitted to go out on my own. My parents looked after my welfare.

From adolescents, my parents arranged my marriage for me, considering my lifelong happiness and financial well being above all. I was fortunate enough to have my own servant in Pakistan, even as a teen.

As a married woman married to an ER physician we have a staff of 2 in our home. We both have our philanthropic and charity work. My husband has never, ever, not once in my time known with him made me pay for anything---not a tip, not a meal, not anything. Once we wanted to get a prescription and the co-pay was $1. He did not have any cards or cash but I did. My husband drove us back home, got the $1 in change, and drove us back to the pharmacy. This is how our culture our religion teaches us to treat women, to put them on a pedestal. All my money I inherited when my father died is mine, not my husbands. We have a clothes maker come to our house. We have a cook. I am not permitted to wash even a single glass.

I am not trying to sound superior, truly it is of Allah that we have been able to come to this point through education and work. But I try to point out, as a Muslim woman, I know better than NON Muslim women. I know that most of us are blessed and happy, and that the minority of unhappy women that engage in haraam acts to survive are not the normal way of things.

I do suggest that Non Muslim raised women marry other Non Muslims. You will have very slim chance of success in our culture, they are just too different.

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