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Why assessing emotions in a negative way is not appropriate and the purpose of the forum/To all the Maries and Kellies of the forum

Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men

Submitted by A very concerned reader, Jan 30, 2021 at 16:23

Dear Maries and Kellies of this forum,

I'm not sorry to say that I have a Zero Tolerance Abuse Policy, whether I see it round the corner of my building, a children's playground, at work, among the relatives and above all, a romantic partner. Not in vain, I expanded my studies to be officially able to help people who have suffered from what I had to after my traumatic experience with a Muslim man.

Assessing the emotions of the women who come here to share their knowledge and concern about others in a negative way is NOT the purpose of the forum. By the way, assessing the emotions in a negative way is hurtful, insensitive and disrespectful. It reflects a clear lack of empathy towards the human beings. Not only from a clinic perspective, but also from the perspective of a regular human being with no education. I mean that you don't necessarily need to be a psychologist to know how you must talk to a victim of domestic violence and abuse. Education and empathy are not related. But it helps to broaden your knowledge. Thats why many of us are here too, to keep learning while sharing what we know.

However, it seems that your mindset is similar to the Islamic core where women are to blame for everything. Did you know that it's said that whenever there's a woman and a man sharing the same space "Shaytan" is in between? So women are guilty just for existing and luring the poor men to commit zina?

The Prophet (pbuh) says: "No man is alone with a woman but the Shaytan is the third one present.'" [Narrated by Ahmad, Tirmidhi and Hakim).

This is the reason why there's segregation in Islam and women must eat, pray, stay apart with women only. In Islamic countries, you find this even in the queues, in the buses, in the restaurants, and so on. If a woman is raped, she needs 4 Muslim men as witnesses to confirm the rape. Otherwise, she will be killed. Sharia does not protect women. Sharia blames them. If a woman tries to complain about being mistreated, may their Allah help her! Because she must have done anything if the husband is trying to correct her behaviour through the several punishment describe in the Qur'an. Of course, they're told to be "drama", victimizer, liars, cheaters, and yes, BITTER (I'm sure that women who have dated Muslims men have been told these comments as well). I hope this has clarified enough to you why assessing in the way you did these women's tone in their posts is not appropriate. If not, you have no case.

Now, coming back again to the idea of women equal shaytan, you can have an idea what Islam teaches and why its rules towards the women are around. I truly hope you never suffer in your life from abuse or domestic violence like the large majority of the women have suffered in here and are brave enough to tell to the world and alert others of the red flags which they will find in Muslim men. On the contrary, If you then have the Islamic mentality, you don't need the sound and great advice which is given in here nor the good information. You'll be fine.

Having said this, I truly hope Dr Pipes joins me in my Zero Tolerance Abuse Policy and we can draw a closure to the belittling comments.

Thanks.

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Daniel Pipes replies:

I do join you in this.

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