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Women don't come here by accident

Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men
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Submitted by Numina (Norway), Oct 30, 2020 at 19:43

Yes, Chelsea, thank you. That's why I tried to explain to this commenter. I don't even see here Muslim women happily married pandering about their culture/religion and defending to their core. Precisely, because they're happy and don't have the need to research over the Internet.

When something doesn't feel fine in their gut is when women find out this blog which offers very valuable information in order to make well informed decisions, or at least, it sets a starter point. Some of the posts here are outstanding and come from women who have experienced during years this type of relationship. Many women converted out of love and now are persecuted after realising the truth. These relationships are not like a western person has been used to/raised for. There's so much research to be done.

Why I have noticed is that non Muslim women end up with a Muslim man because their relationships have terribly failed, they were missing a committed man to their family values, are in their late thirties or forties and it's the last resort to having what they were missing. They need to believe it's for real of course. And Islam, of course again, it's pictured as the perfect frame to build a family with a strong sense of stability and durability. Divorce is allowed but not well seen, and couples are forced to work it out for their families' sake. Also, if men can afford it, can have 3 more wives to solve issues with the first one. You see, they don't tell you that this can happen to you. And also, that in case of divorce, women are the damaged ones. Children belong to fathers, the women must come back to their parents home and chances to remarry are little to zero.

All in all, they know why they came here. But need to believe desperately that their men are different, that they, these women, are somehow special and unique.

What they don't seem to know is that having doubts is a very good signal that means that they still can save themselves from a very heartache. Feminine instinct is a blessing. Instead defending another person's culture/religion which they still don't/can't understand yet, they should be questioning why they, when there are plenty of younger Muslim native women in these men's countries. And of course, reflect upon the reason why they would give up all their rights as free women, change their values and views just for the sake to be accepted and love. Often, there are underlying issues which women need to resolve before they enter into a new relationship. I hope these posts at the very least make them deepen their research. It's not an easy task, and it will be painful to accept. But it is truth as the sun. And they need to know.

I just suggest this commenter as well as other women who have doubts to be honest with themselves and ask themselves what brought them to read this blog. And after that, to keep investigating Islam, Sharia, their men's country, culture, mentality,upbringing, family, relatives, clan, etc. Read as much books as they can and read it from the source because then, no one could make up and sugar-coat things for you. I'm referring to the Quoran and the Hadith. Educate on Sharia as well as regardless of where you live, Sharia rules Muslims world.

Knowledge will be their main and powerful weapon. As it should be in all matters in life. You see, there's no miracles and no luck. In this life, effort and knowledge are everything. Don't let your lives to be led by luck. The only thing in which due to location we can consider really lucky is in this one only: we weren't born to be lambs. Even this is not the product of luck but the huge effort of our ancestors to fight for their rights, specially women. So, think always with your brains.

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