To Rosie

Submitted by Lina (United Kingdom), Jul 6, 2020 at 15:40

From reading your story it's clear that he was after intimacy - he probably liked the idea of being with a married woman, and knowing that you had a child and were unhappily married made you seem like an easy target.

To be honest, this is not even something that only MENA men are guilty of. But just know that very few Middle Eastern men would be involved with a married woman - divorced, also rarely but possible - unless there was an ulterior motive. In his head, if you're cheating on him you will do the same to him and if he's Muslim especially then it would be seen as a big sin, worthy even of death.

But you're right, they can be very charming as well as handsome, however they are quite complicated... I used to say on here, if you want a fling with one then go ahead, but I would actually only advise that if you don't get easily attached because MENA men don't approach relationships in the same way that other men do, and that's what messes a lot of women up. Even if you're "friends with benefits" they will often treat you in the way that a European man might treat a serious girlfriend, which can leave the woman feeling very confused as well as prematurely attached.

If any ladies are seeing a MENA man, never allow him to get to a point where he feels comfortable with disrespecting you, because once he does then a) it means he doesn't take you seriously and b) most times the disrespect will get worse, as with these men once they "stain a sheet" it's hard for them to (mentally) clean it to its original state.

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