Hello Lexi

Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Jan 16, 2020 at 14:32

The name you chose is a good one. I have a niece named Lexi and I absolutely love that name.

I do not want to hurt anyone's feelings here. Any western woman or muslim woman. The cultures are just so different. I am very much on the side of the woman in ANY case where she is being abused.

I was quite fond of the muslim ladies I associated with and stayed with during my visit overseas. But I did see the way one especially was affected and she told me in great pain. Woman to woman. We all really need the same if we are to marry. Respect, love, care, and equality. Throw in some dignity along with faithfulness and you just might have a good marriage. BTW there is no sin in those that like to remain single. I found that I do better single. I love it.

Now this is the sad part. The muslim woman who had been hurt so badly does not have the same rights as far as choice and choosing to get out of or remain single...she has no way to support herself because of the oppressive atmosphere there. And I thought so many times if I could just put her in my suitcase and FREE her I would do it where she could have a chance at a happy life. That man over there HURT her and she was blamed for it. He beat her until her baby fell out. She has almost lost her mind. With this being said...this is why we are here trying to save western men and women from getting into something they do not understand.

Just as with the hurt muslim woman who shared with me, some of the western men and women coming to this forum are needing help. By gosh, the muslim woman I knew needs help. But she is in a prison of dishonor when she in fact was the victim.

I think too that there are beautiful people from all cultures. That is not the reason for a marriage though. Looks fade. And marriage based on physical beauty is shallow. As soon as abuse or financial problems come...those looks fly right out the window.

I know that the people in the muslim countries think that all western women are fast to jump in the bed before marriage. However that is not true of all. The only thing that people have overseas is movies made by hollywood that portray that sort of thing. Western women are also irritated at these movies. As for me, personally, I choose a life of celibacy. Not that I do not have offers though. But I like to choose and it just makes me feel clean to keep that in check. Some women here need to have husbands...but good husbands. And no ....again not all western women are loose. Also sex outside marriage goes on everywhere in the world. Not just in western countries. It has since the beginning and will continue. So it is up to the individual to make that choice. But in the muslim world...not many choices are given for the women. And that is very sad to me.

I have always been a woman's advocate against abuse and have done work for the shelters here in the US. It is unlawful in the US to abuse a woman and men are prosecuted for this. But in the muslim world, women cannot choose their mate, and have to walk on eggshells because the family can kill her if they even perceive that the woman is bringing shame and dishonor to the family. These are BIG differences in culture and for the sake of western men and women considering travel to and marriage in a muslim country...this forum exists.

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