Lessons learned,indeed!

Submitted by Lana (USA) (United States), Dec 27, 2019 at 07:48

It is sad to watch how your best qualities are got used against you,,just because you trusted another human being, who needed help at that moment(putting aside cultural and religious differences.)

Good hearted person often have luck of the knowledge of how cruel the others could be,makes them blindly "feed" the evil in sheep's skin with their good intentions.

I was just sitting outdoors ,reflecting on the events of the past two years,listening to my inner self...

Growing up among kind and selfless people,it is very hard to see potential evil in others.
Just because you are good and decent person and do your family and friends,does not necessarily means that so are the others.

But we often tend to overlook it,until something really bad happens and opens up our eyes to a bitter reality....

Slowly and with time- your empathy grows into carelessness and ignorance-you stop caring about someone in trouble and focus on yourself and your loved ones....in order to protect yourself from being used by someone else who uses your kindness and generosity to their advantage.
First-you are willingly help someone out of your good heart, then -it is expected from you to help, and later it will be demanded from you to help!!!!

And after you feel like a garbage,being used by someone you trust,your heart becomes numb to someone's pain and despair,because you will question yourself-if your help will be abused again? If your good qualities will be taken advantage of?
Will your help brings you trouble you never imagined?

With time you learn to be very selective to whom you willing to help and trust those days.
With time you learn to love yourself more,and build the boundaries,no one allowed to cross,you learn to make life changing decisions with your head,leaving the matter of the heart behind.

Happy and healthy New 2020 year to all!!!
May it bring peace and harmony, happiness and joy!!!

Hugs!
Lana.

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