Pakistani man

Submitted by Mari (Greece), Dec 16, 2019 at 11:36

I want to add something because I'm always questioning myself now.
I was going to go to Pakistan and marry him but this girl really seems like his wife. One of his family members told me he's playing me and he has a wife and a child but then he said they're enemies and that his family member lied to me and he keeps saying he's not married he keeps swearing on god.
He keeps asking me to go to Pakistan but I'm scared I cannot do this unless I know it 100% he's not married.
I need help because he's abusing me emotionally, the moment I don't trust him he leaves and when he distracts me he comes back again and this happens over and over again.
I understand I'm acting dumb right now but in my head there are lots of "what if's"
I'm always in war with myself, what if he's saying the truth what if I'm the one who's bad what if I'm hurting him what if he really wanted to marry me.
I'm confused and lost and also I can't take this anymore but every time he leaves I feel so empty then he says he loves me and that it's my fault because I called him a liar.
But he made that woman delete her ig account. He said she's his cousin.
If she really was the cousin why would he make her delete her account?
She had a private account and blocked me everywhere before she deleted her account, but I saw only one photo, not the faces but the body and hands look like it's my bf.
He made me talk with his mom and mom said that he's not married and then they said they wanted to visit Greek islands.
I'm not sure am I being used for visa for sex or he really wants to marry me, or would he make me his second wife ? Which I'm not okay with, but why so many lies? Would he marry me in secret and hide the fact he has a wife?

One time he send me a photo and he had red lipstick on his face and he said he didn't see his grandma a long time but I don't think a grandma would do this, I think that was his wife but he pretends he's single cause he knows I will leave and he's a 100% liar

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