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I don't think you are in love with him...you are in love with the illusion

Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men
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Submitted by Chelsea (United States), Nov 17, 2019 at 17:16

I am very blunt and understand how these manipulators work.

FIRST...anyone who is being used cannot possibly love that.

SECONDLY...we who loved did not know that we were being used at that time. We fill in the blanks in our minds of what this relationship is and it is not reality. Therefore we are in love with the illusion that was created for us to believe...which is a LIE

THIRD...It is normal in our culture to evolve into a deeper emotion that these users are not capable of doing. We naturally evolve there...but they do not. They are not capable of feeling this deep emotional relationship. Women, especially foreign women are not respected in their cultures.

FOURTH...please do not feel bad that I am telling you this. It is only to help you to understand that in time you will see the reality of this situation and you will KNOW that this is not what you signed up for. It has happened to all of us who are recovering. Eventually all who are going through this crap will finally realize that it was just an illusion and not truth.

We were in love with an illusion, fantasy, and not the truth. We want to believe them in the lovebombing stage and afterward when the truth comes out....it is hard to imagine the truth because we gave so much.

Give no more.

Submitting....

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