Feeling overwhelmed

Submitted by Bella (United States), Oct 15, 2019 at 03:10

Hi,
Today I tried telling him that I don't want the responsibility of sponsoring him to come to the US. I told him that it's a heavy load to put on someone. He told me, "why don't you trust me" "do you think I will be a criminal in your country", "if you can't take the responsibility of me you don't truly love me", "you won't be able to live here in Morocco because you are use to your life in America", "tell me a logical reason why can't you take responsibility", "we will work together", "stop your negative thinking", "you are always changing your mind", "I want to live with you and start a family", "please believe me". My heart is sensitive because I have been dating this man for 9 months. However, I'm no fool. He wants me to travel to see him in December. He obviously wants to get married but I will not. I don't think I will even travel just to see him because I will catch more feelings. And it's expensive. I feel like life is so unfair. I meet this beautiful person who can potentially be out to use me. Maybe or maybe not. But statistics on here shows the chances I'm being used is higher. Omg I can't seem to get away from this man. I don't know what it is. The risk is too costly. The price to pay is too high if this is a scam. How many years am I responsible for him if I sponsor him? 2 or 10? I can't do this.

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