Drop him,Lilly.It is pointless....

Submitted by Lana(USA) (United States), Aug 31, 2019 at 01:11

08/31/19
Lilly,

They are masters at creating an illusion of whatever you want to see in them,filling the gaps of missing information with fantasy and future faking,telling you the words you want to hear.So,once they sense that you are into him-it will be easy for them to manipulate your emotions and to get what they need from you or give you a silent treatment when you are not behaving the way they expect from you.This is a trick that most manipulators use in order to attach the victim emotionally:it's called"closer-further".They put you on an emotional swing,creating chemical imbalance in your brain,which leads to an emotional attachment.You start to think of his behavior more and more,trying to reason it in your head.
CONGRATULATIONS-you got brainwashed!
Now,you are attached to him and he will be keeping you on an emotional leash,while sucking of what he needs from you.
He knows what he does and he does it well!!!

If you make your desicions out of guilt and fear, and your gut feeling tells you that something does not adds up and it feels wrong-MORE LIKELY-IT IS WRONG!
Without trust there is no sense to continue the relationship,deeping it more and more in the haze of emotions and fantasy of the future he created in your head,getting more and more attached to such psycho-twisted,heartless beasts!
Do not give them that pleasure of using you !!!Run!!!Cut him short!!!
Of cause it will hurt at first,but it will be only temporary pain,that time will heal.Do out of the two evils-dropping him is a better choice,considering wasting your entire life by his side,suffering every single day!

I am glad that I am past this pain and can use my experience to help the others to avoid this trap of the grand illusion of love they fall into.
I also find it therapeutic to write the thoughts out so they will not be ruminating in my head.

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