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Your story reminds my ex boyfriend, what is his name

Reader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men
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Submitted by Jessica Ng (United States), Aug 27, 2019 at 08:44

My ex is kurdistan,1988. We have dated for 2,5 years and I felt something wrong about this guy. Promise, swear to God what he love only me, stalker me...always manipulate my feeling that was my falses, wanna in bed but I still keep my principal that no sex before marriage and he just like mad on me as he said I should have punishment. We stopped talking and he dated another young girl, send to me video of them in car (she did manicure for him at 12a.m). I stopped about 6 months, then he contacted me back please to meet for explanation everything but still blame on me not him. I calm down and told him show me more what you said. Then not available for midnight calls anymore. He still texted me from July 2018 to dec 11 2018 want to see me because miss me, but I still feel wrong of him. He kept saying he will go to his country (erbil) for something wanna see me but I just excuse I was busy and late time. The day he took the plane he texted me :"today I will go back to my country, I will text you when I'm back ok" I replied "safe flight and have fun". A month later, I saw his wedding pictures on Snapchat, I was shock and sad but I know my feeling was right and good thing I did is not give him what he wants. When I saw those wedding pictures, I replied on that pic "happy wedding, I'm glad i didn't trust you Govand Shexbzeny". He was back texted "shut the mouth f*ck off". That blows my mind about trusting on the true color, rude and lies. 4 months later, he texted me around on social media and text messages but I no answer. He sent to me many paragraphs that his marriage was about his parents ' old generation and he was not happy so they divorce. I'm just like "wow" he asked for a meeting to explain everything he said he was lost and he will bring me to his mom to prove it but I still see something wrong. I met him in Starbucks coffee after let him wait for me 1 hour. I told him "if you dont tell me about your problems before, it is not necessary to know it now. I hope you can balance yourself first, I cannot be around with a married man". After a week, he texted me that he will block me forever and have a nice life. I'm just "ok". A silly thing I know recently is one of my client in my work place, she is Russian (58 or 60 years) that he used to date to her when he was 20 and she was 40. She said she refuse him because he is Muslim, he told her he would convert his religion then she did convert for him in her bathtub and they still contact till 2018. She told me last week he texted her "you are my wife forever and the wedding is my parents force and my religion, " he wanna see her again. She denied him cause of knowledge his marriage.
So, again, not only American girls or women were treated as options, but also other women from many country would be the same problem, same man. I realized lessons about love and be more attractive than trusting someone maybe changes from his saying. Even they treat his wife like invisible lady and other women, I don't think about his past for dating with 40 yrs old lady but I care how he treated me and I know my feeling was right and his wedding is his business. For the wife, that is her choice.

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