Good points, Lina

Submitted by Robin (United States), Jun 26, 2019 at 08:40

Your comment made me laugh, even though the facts are not at all funny. My Moroccan husband acted like he was more Western-minded than the typical Muslim man when we first got together, but as time went on his true character began showing through. This was extremely confusing for me, because where initially he seemed to be very loving, kind, and supportive, later I began to be punished for things in a way that was far out of proportion to the supposed "crime." It is possible to be emotionally abused from another country, and this is what he did. Things also happened when we were together that were extremely questionable, and when I tried to discuss them later all hell broke loose. He saw nothing wrong with blatantly lying to me in front of people who knew he was lying, and then becoming angry when I discovered this and confronted him. I experienced what is known as "cognitive dissonance," and am still very traumatized by my time with him. What is the most infuriating is that these men know how to behave in order to bait and hook a woman, but once they have you the relationship rules change, and all in their favor. What is worse is that they see absolutely nothing wrong with their behavior - this is their entitlement.

I wish every day that I had never met my husband and gotten involved with him. Even though I have been out of the relationship for more than three months, he is the gift that keeps on giving because of all the problems he has caused me emotionally and financially. I am getting professional help, and will recover in time, but he undoubtedly has moved on to his next unsuspecting victim with no issue whatsoever. I hate what I allowed him to do to me, and will never forgive him. Hopefully in time I will meet a kind, decent man who helps me to forget about this period in my life.

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